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I don't understand the concept of rape
Hello doctors how is everyone . I got a question I wanted to ask for a really long time and I am always curious about it . I am really worried about the way I think about things and life , my thoughts are different from my family and friends . The way I think doesn't match many people around me , some ideas are totally normal but most of the time I just react differently and feel things differently . But here specifically, I want to talk about feeling guilty about not understanding the concept of " rape " . I just feel so stupid and a criminal when I think " the victim was weak " or " so what's wrong with it ? Sex is fun " ik those thoughts are dangerous but I really tried to understand how bad it hurts a person and I can't understand , Ik rapists are criminals and it's a horrible crime but I don't understand why or how I just know that the sex is forced on someone . Please help me know what's wrong with me , is this because I am still immature , I am just 16 , could this be it ?
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Yes it is difficult to know much more about sex and rape in 16 yrs of age.We have lack of sex education. But i told you some different thing that being different is not a problems. You must show ur ownself dont hide it.You may be different from others or you are not doing common things like others but its your personality and characteristics.
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This is for every poor person who didn't get a comprehensive sexual education because of all the cultures in the world (including my own) that shame people for being interested and curious about sex. Consent. You have the utmost right to decide what happens to your own body as far as it doesn't impact someone else's body. You're the only one who gets to decide when you have sex. Nothing that anyone else can do or say over-rules your own decision about your own body and your own actions. You don't owe anyone sex. You don't owe anyone anything. Similarly, no one else owes you anything. The actions you take towards other people do not mean that they're going to have sex with you. Don't let anyone shame or judge you for how you make decisions about your own body and don't you dare shame or judge anyone else for what they do with their own body. Ongoing consent. Consent is not a one-time thing. Consent is an ongoing agreement that can be retracted at any time. There's no way to get around this and if you're afraid that your partner is going to accuse you of rape because it's their word against yours, you're not ready to have sex. Sex is about trust. If you don't trust your partner, don't have sex. Because consent can be retracted at any time, you have to be aware that sex must be enjoyable for both of you and that if your partner wants to stop, you have to stop. And it is absolutely your right and your partner's right to stop whenever either of you feels like it. And there's nothing wrong with that.  RAPE: At the core, rape is about having sex with someone without their consent. Intimacy and closeness are elements that affect multiple levels of consciousness. We are sexual beings from the moment we are born and experiencing closeness and intimacy from the way we interact with our care givers. Intimacy is hard wired into our brains and an assault and force within that framework is devastating because it's how we hold our self- esteem, self- efficiency, and sense of security. It's devastating to have that which makes us feel loved and close to be used as an angry and possessive act. It's a terrible to be a victim and incredibly difficult to stop feeling like one.
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Hello. I understand that you are feeling alot of guilt and not able to understand what is happening. I understand that it must difficult for you to deal with the thoughts. At the same time, I would like to appreciate the fact that you wanted to understand what was happening and accept things as it is. I am sure once you are able to understand what is happening, you will feel more better about yourself. First of all, it is completely okay to think different from others as long it does not cause you or the people around you any kind of harm, mentally or physically. It is this that makes you who you are. In regard to what you have mentioned about rape, I would like for you to know that you already have the insight that is is wrong. You are aware that it is not right, however you are not sure how it is not right. You are lacking the knowledge of why it is wrong. The main reason why it is wrong is because it done without the permission of the other person, since it is done without permission it can torturous both physically and mentally for the other person. It induces extreme pain on the victim. You will understand more when you grow up little more and understand things.
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I want you to know there is nothing wrong in the way you are thinking. As I had mentioned, you are aware that it is wrong, but why it is wrong was the factor that was impacting you. it's alright.
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Yes it's definitely because you are immature and in growing age.. Sex is personal. U don't want to do it with someone forcibly that rape against will and wish and desire. It has a severe psychological impact on the person Read about nirbhaya rape case.if u still don't find it sensitive Seek some help from us All the best Follow my page on Facebook "the Cloud Door " for mental health updates
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For this , you need to understand the concept of consent. Sexual intercourse with a person's consent does not amount to rape. Whereas if you are doing it without consent, that is a problem. So , to simplify it, imagine if someone tried to sodomize you, without your consent, forcefully. You surely would not like the experience. Similarly, when a woman is forced upon by a man who she does not want to have intercourse in the first place , it's rape.
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even if you don't understand the concept of rape, don't indulge in any activity which doesn't involve consent of your partner.
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Rape is not only physical abuse but it's mental  trauma too. Sex is fun when some body interested not when it's forced........Your body secrete pleasure neurochemicals when you are enjoying it. In rape it's forcful
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I appreciate your question and it's not abnormal to think differently till you have your conscience with you. Human being are social animals but we actually aren't animals. Sex is a biological need but for humans like us it is dominated by several other things like state of mind, social norms, emotional attachment, feelings of intimacy and there are still more. But rape actually lacks the basic consent of the other person.
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please feel free to come up with such queries and if you feel like no body is understanding you then try consult a professional who can clarify your thoughts rather having some misconceptions.
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I'm glad you have sought to clarify your lack of understanding. It isn't your fault, it's the failure on our part, not to have explained things in a way you can understand. Please contact me I would like to ensure that you understand why some things are deemed not right or wrong.
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Hi Thanks for seeking help here. Everyone have rights to chose their sexual partners. After that also your partner has no rights to force sex on you without your consent. Pleasure is a feeling and it usually comes from mind. Now just think if someone will provide you very good food and dresses and nice house but they will isolate you and will to allow you meet people of you choice. Then do you thing you will be happy. That's why animals who are in cage are not happy. Same way when we do anything against our wish we don't feel pleasure. Now coming to sex it's pleasure if it's not forced by choice. As our society wants to protect women from this harrassment so laws are very strong. The post rape victims found a lot of trouble in society to accept that as a normal. Today's society's behaviour towards victims is really bad and pathetic so that mental harrassment made it a bigger crime. You have a point which definitely need much more clarification. If your free to discuss it. Any further discussion you may chat with us. Regards Practo we
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It's correct. But the society feels it in another way
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