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Its been 3 years or more and I haven't been able to move on from my past relationship with my ex girlfriend that lasted around 3 years . From the past few weeks I was missing her a lot so around late November I told her that I still have feelings for her and we chatted for over an hour for 2 consecutive days and from then we haven't talked anywhere. She said she does not want to talk to me and we have blocked each other on social media. Doctor I want to move on but I am not able to let go of my relationship. Please help me. I haven't talked to her in 25 some days but I think about her every night or whenever I am alone. Its very hard for me. Sometimes suicidal thoughts crosses my mind but I know I am too strong for that. I usually go for a drive or exercise to clear my thoughts.
Should I see a therapist? Please recommend
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Hi! If u have not been able to move on since the last 3 years then you probably need help in dealing with grief. It is extremely difficult to have a break up in a relationship in which you were so invested. Pl connect with me thru graycellsmatter.com. I am a licensed clinical psychologist.
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Yes, you must definitely see a therapist to understand what is it which is holding you back to move ahead. So you could be guided on coming back to normal.
Every relationship needs time to come out of. It is just like a death in the family makes you remember them for months. The same with a relationship, it needs time to move on. You have done a good thing of blocking each other on social media.
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Try to keep yourself around people whom you care for so you will be distracted from the thoughts.
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Continue exercise, take in more sunshine as it will help you to come out of your gloom
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Thanks for reaching out for help. A break up or moving away from a relationship can be quite tough to get through. But the human mind is stronger than letting something like this lead to depression and suicidal thoughts. Please take the help of a therapist of your choice to help you emerge stronger.
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Book an online consultation with me or any therapist of your choice to have a session regarding this.
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Letting go might seem like the toughest thing to do but you will have to find closure that this is the best and only thing that will help you move on on life
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Hey buddy
Glad u reached out. I can imagine that u feel lonely and sad. Not receiving the same feelings in reciprocation from someone u love is a unfair place to be in. U can definitely seek counselling from someone online. A Video or a phone session to begin with will help
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I’m here to help u.. feel free to connect
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Set your mind first, if she comes in your life, you will spoil your mind again with another reason.
So problem is not the lady, it is you.
Keep working with pain, take help from us, how to win the mind, you can win anything.
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you are not sincere n honest to your role,now be sincere towards present, persons n goals, you will be happy in both the cases, if she come or not.
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Hi,
When you love someone so much it is not easy to accept the break-up and move on... it must be very difficult for you to forget about her and move on but not impossible.
I must appreciate that you don’t let the thoughts of suicide settle in your mind and you feel you are stronger than that which itself shows you are very strong person.
As you have realisation and acceptance that you want to move on in your life then I would advise you to meet a Clinical Psychologist as with the help of Psychotherapy you will be able to move on and lead a better life ahead.
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You can consult me on Practo for the same.
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Please be kind to your self. This situation has made you emotionally weak. No one is worth in our life , to self harm.
It will be advised for you to take Counselling. As we cannot give complete details, unless we understand the complete situation
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I suggest you to see a therapist to help you to move on from your current scenario. Relationship breakup has to be dealt.
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Ms. Delphina Esther
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hello, this sounds like a very difficult experience to be going through. Relationships can become a very big part of your life. To go from sharing a big part of your life with someone to suddenly not being able to depend on them is a very big transition to make. Moving on from such a relationship is a very big change to make. This may even take you some time. We, as humans, can grieve over the loss of most anything important to us, including the ending of relationships. It sounds like you may also be grieving over the loss of your relationship.
Grief tends to occur in stages. It begins with denial or difficulty in coming to accept that something has happened. At some point, the experience brings up feelings of anger, of wishing it hadn't happened with you, and at times, even intense sadness. This is a very normal process and it is okay for you to be feeling this way. At some stage, a person who is in grief reaches the stage of acceptance. Break-ups are extremely difficult, I hear you. Allow yourself some time and self-care and you will eventually reach that stage of acceptance.
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I would recommend that you approach a therapist! Seeing a therapist may allow you to process all these big feelings. Therapy can even help you process the grief, the ending of the relationship, the sudden transition you are having to make and all the feelings it is bringing up for you. Through therapy, you may also be able to identify some ways to help you cope with all that you are going through.
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For the meantime, you can continue to moderately use activities such as exercise to help you cope and care for yourself. Alternatively you can try, 1. Creative outlets such as art, music, drama, dance and so on. 2. Journalling may help you reflect and express yourself. You can either use structured journaling prompts that you find online or simply write of whatever feels natural to you in that moment. 3. If it is safe and possible for you at present, meeting some friends or family may also help! 4. Of the biggest forms of self-care, is therapy. Please do consider reaching out to a therapist!
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Ms. Kajol Birawat
Counselling Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hey, this sounds like an extremely difficult situation. Thanks for coming out with it. The loss of a relationship can lead to grief. Grief can be difficult to deal with, and it is important to realise that it's okay for you to feel the way that you do. However, it is important to find different ways to cope with it. The first step to coping with grief is to acknowledge and accept what you're going through. You can talk to people you're comfortable with about the same, as this will help you express yourself. You can also try writing down what exactly you're feeling. In order to cope with the emotions you feel, you can try different kinds of journaling. This can be done by drawing, colouring, doodling and even writing. Since it has been three years since the breakup, I suggest that you consider going for therapy. It is important to explore the reasons behind why you're not able to move on, and work on your emotions from there. Please also consider going for Peer Support Groups where you can talk about what you're going through, and get support for the same. For example, Heart It Out conducts peer support discussions every week (https://heartitout.in/buddy-circle/). This will help you meet and talk to like-minded people, and provide you with an avenue to express yourself.
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Please get in touch with me through this app. We can schedule a therapy session to work on the mental health concerns you're going through. Take care :)
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Dr. Mustafa Mun (PhD)
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Mumbai
Yes you should see a therapist soon it will really help you
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