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Breakup pain
It has been 6 months after my ex girlfriend left me for our toxic relationship.I must mention here I was the toxic person who always used to blame her,scold her,fights with her over silly things.It was me who couldn't see the breakup was coming, although I always thought she is never gonna leave me.Whatever,the thing is that I am used to the new normal mode of life now,I am habituated to the pain,but suddenly I am feeling that the pain has increased more like 10x after 6 months, don't know why.I am just wanting to escape from everywhere, disappear from all of my circles,my friends,my family. I want that she never see me anywhere,she never hears my name,she never sees my account,my picture on social media,I just want to go to darkness, from where nobody can see me,nobody can save me.I also don't want to see any other girl, don't want to talk to any other girl,I just want that everybody leaves me,nobody cares for me.I want to sleep whole day.Why?all of these?why??
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It seems to be a post traumatic experience due to unexpected results. It may be PTSD.
It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
It can be treated well with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively.
You need an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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It looks like you feel guilty for taking her for granted when you two were together. Somewhere you felt that this relationship will last forever but the breakup was a shocker for you. It must be really hard for you to even digest that she has left you. You were left with a lot of pain n guilt but now it has increased a lot which is unbearable for you. It is natural to take time when a relationship ends abruptly. The fact that you do not want her to see you anywhere shows that how much you are feeling bad about so many things n regret doing that. I appreciate your courage n honesty to be able express here n let me tell you that you are not alone in this.
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Hi! Though you were the reason for breakup somewhere in your mind you are missing her and ended up in depression so all these symptoms are due to depression so you need to undergo Psychotherapy and counseling to overcome the same and lead a normal life forever.....
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Srividhya Mahalingam
Psychologist, Coimbatore
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Hi, Guilt can be a reason why you feel this way.lf you think there were mistakes from your side you can always change.Consult a psychologist for professional help
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It seems like you’re experiencing an intense emotional response tied to guilt, unresolved grief, and self-perception after the breakup. Initially, you may have numbed the pain, but as time passes, unprocessed emotions are resurfacing, intensifying your feelings. The desire to isolate yourself and sleep all day can be a sign of depression or emotional burnout, particularly as you grapple with self-blame and regret.
Your wish to “disappear” and cut off from everyone may stem from feeling unworthy of connection or love—a common response when dealing with unresolved guilt. It’s also natural to struggle with accepting the finality of a significant relationship, especially if you’re confronting the consequences of your actions in hindsight.
This is an important moment to seek help. You don’t have to face this alone. Therapy can provide you with a safe space to process your emotions, learn self-forgiveness, and rediscover your sense of self-worth. It’s okay to feel pain, but remember, isolation isn’t the answer.
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Itâs completely valid to feel overwhelmed and confused by the sudden surge of emotions. These feelings show how deeply you care and are part of the healing process, even though they may be tough to handle. What you're feelingâa sudden increase in pain after monthsâis quite common. Sometimes, we get so used to living with pain that we push it aside to get through the day. But after a while, our mind and body canât hold it in anymore, and it all comes rushing back. That might be why your pain feels so much stronger now.
Your thoughts about wanting to isolate yourself, stay in darkness, or sleep all day could be signs of emotional exhaustion or even depression. Feeling disconnected from others might mean you're overwhelmed by unresolved emotions.
It seems like youâre trying to figure out why youâre feeling this way, and thatâs an important step. Your feelings could come from a mix of reasons:
1. Guilt or regret: Thinking about your role in the relationship might make you too hard on yourself.
2. Loss of identity: Relationships often become a big part of who we are, and losing one can make us feel lost or unsure about ourselves.
3. Unprocessed grief: A breakup is a kind of loss, and itâs normal to need time to work through that.
Healing takes time and kindness toward yourself. Talking to a psychologist can help you understand and process these feelings, let go of the guilt, and find purpose again. Reaching out for support isn't a weaknessâit's a brave step toward healing and moving forward.
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Wanting to escape or isolate could be your mindâs way of handling emotions that feel too big to manage. While this reaction is understandable, facing these feelings in a safe space, like with a therapist is important. They can help you make sense of your emotions and support you in healing and moving forward.
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1. Change your environment: Rearrange your space or spend time in a new location to create a fresh perspective. 2. Create a personal ritual: Develop a small, meaningful habit like lighting a candle, drawing, or meditating to reconnect with yourself. 3. Learn something new: Try a new hobby or skill to shift your focus and rebuild confidence in yourself.
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
You were able to cope up previously, but suddenly the reality must have struck and you are unable to cope up with it. What I see is apathy, lack of interest in everything due to failed relationship and depression. You have to be courageous enough to accept a failed relationship and come out of it gradually by reconnecting with your old positive habits and self.
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Connect with counsellor to take the right steps in life....😊
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi,
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It seems like you're experiencing a deep sense of heartbreak and regret, which can often intensify over time, especially as the initial shock of a breakup fades and you're left to confront the emotional aftermath. The feelings you're describingâdesire to escape, overwhelming pain, and disconnection from othersâcan be signs of depression or profound sadness, particularly when mixed with guilt over past behaviors in the relationship. This might be a manifestation of unresolved feelings, such as remorse for how you treated your ex and the loss of what you once had. Itâs also common to feel a resurgence of emotions after a significant period of numbness as you begin to reflect on the relationship and its end. While it may feel tempting to isolate yourself, itâs crucial to reach out for support rather than withdrawing further. Talking to a trusted friend or seeking professional help, such as a therapist, can provide a safe space to process these emotions. Engaging in self-care activities and gradually re-establishing connections with supportive people can also help you navigate this difficult time. Remember, healing is a complex journey, and you donât have to go through it alone. There is hope for brighter days ahead.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Would suggest you to seek a professional support to understand yourself better and to get a clarity..
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You can contact me for further discussion and consultation..
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Ms. Shivangi Agrawal
Psychotherapist
8 yrs exp
Gurgaon
I understand how painful a breakup can be, and it’s important to give yourself time to heal. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions without judgment—they’re valid and a natural part of healing. Focus on self-care by maintaining healthy routines, reaching out to supportive friends or family, and engaging in activities that bring you comfort or joy. It’s okay to take things one step at a time; healing isn’t linear. If you feel overwhelmed, therapy can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and rediscover your sense of self. Remember, this is a phase, and with time, it will get better.
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Dear concerned, It sounds like you're experiencing intense emotional pain and possibly symptoms of depression. It’s important to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or a mental health professional to share your feelings and seek support. You don’t have to face this alone, and healing is possible with time and help.
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
25 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
You are feeling overwhelmed, stagnated and cannot understand your emotions. It is understandably quite a struggle for you currently.
However the better part is you have chosen to heal by gaining clarity about the situation and subsequently your mental health.
You need to give the relationship an appropriate closure. Address and process emotions so that moving ahead from the past can be certain and progressive.
You are unknowingly focusing on just one aspect of your life completely,without realising that there are better things beyond, that can bring you fulfillment.
The core concerns need to be addressed at the root level for you to gain holistic healing.
Therapy sessions shall be beneficial for smooth navigation.
You can consult for further professional guidance.
This is a phase that you can overcome. Believe you can achieve a more balanced and healthy mental health.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Bangalore
Write down lessons learned from the relationship without judgment. Consider what could be done differently in future relationships.
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Ms. Anushree Shukla
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Gurgaon
You are entering a 'zone'. You need some tangible and intangible efforts to push yourself out of this zone. This should be guided by a friend/mentor/psychologist/counsellor.
After this, when you feel better, you can think about talking to other girls. She has already moved on, so what is the point of ruining life and being stuck up. When this feeling resonates within, you can take small next steps ! Goodluck 🙂
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Dr. Gargi Bansal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Noida
I must say that you are going through a rough phase of your life where being abondoned by a loved one is hurting you a lot. be mindful and initiate few activities of self care, assign a routine for yourself and try to calm down your thoughts by practicing mindfulness
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