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Reason for breakup?Cheating?Toxicity??
10th July,2024 my girlfriend broke up with me because of my toxicity.I used to scold her,blame her,judge her all time I got frustrated with her,like when she used to deny me for having dirty talks on calls or chat when I was on mood,When she used to deny me to book a hotel room(oyo)for being intimate,her thought was we could be intimate,no problem about that,but if situation occurs then,like we would go on a trip,stay in a room,dark night,romantic conversation,a glass of wine,candle light then may be we could have sex,it was too filmy for me,and that situation was not going to happen for next 5 years,So I used to think she is not ready to do it,I told her asexual so many times for that,told her that I feel lucky when I generally talk to you but feel lonely when I feel horny like that,I broke up and patched up with her so many times. one day she was not replying me on WhatsApp and my friend told she is cheating on you,she got to know about this,and finally broke up, share your thoughts.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist
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Hi dear, It sounds like your past actions created a toxic pattern in the relationship, and she chose to walk away for her well-being. Instead of blaming her or the situation, consider reflecting on your behavior, working on self-growth, and learning healthier ways to communicate and respect boundaries in future relationships.
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Hi,
It sounds like the relationship you had was fraught with misunderstandings and unmet expectations, which ultimately led to its breakdown. Your feelings of frustration regarding intimacy and your girlfriend's boundaries may have stemmed from a fundamental difference in how both of you viewed the relationship and intimacy itself. Labeling her as "asexual" when she simply had a different pace and approach to physical intimacy likely added to the tension. Additionally, the influence of your friend's comments might have exacerbated your insecurities, leading to further mistrust. It's crucial to recognize that healthy relationships require open communication, respect for each other's boundaries, and the ability to navigate differences without resorting to blame or judgment. Reflecting on these aspects may help you learn and grow from this experience, fostering a better understanding of yourself and how to engage in future relationships more positively.
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Just be away from her as this relationship is deteriorated too much. Either it's 100 percent or it's not. So being away would help u realise that u can get better loving caring and trusted partner
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stop total biocutt
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explore your inner soul and have gratitude that u r safe everyday
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Ms. Mamatha S
Clinical Psychologist
6 yrs exp
New Delhi
Hi there , the way we deal with conflicts in a relationship definitely can make the bond deeper with our partner or may leave us feeling more stressed in the relationship leading to more conflicts . It is important to note that when both partners prioritise each other , the problems can be solved together by reaching a common ground while respecting each other 's boundaries .
Having said that cheating is never an excuse to blame your partner . If someone cheated on you , it definitely shows who they are as a person rather than choosing to be honest with you.
Respect , loyalty and understanding forms the basis for any genuine relationship.
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Give yourself time to heal , try not to blame yourself for the cheating that happened . As for your relationship , the way the conflicts were dealt with doesn't seem very healthy .
While you choose to move on from this , also learn to cultivate better communication skills within yourself to deal with conflicts while showing respect to your partner and their boundaries .
Take the help of a counselor / psychologist to help you to navigate relationships in a healthy way and to heal from this grief.
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Rather than letting this situation pull you down too much ,I hope you find your way out of it and learn from it . Hope you find better partnerships in future . All the best.
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