Anger management. Monster. please help!

Hi, Thanks for reaching out. We know that it can be hard to deal with financial and professional stress which can lead to multiple side effects, anger issues being one of them. Anger is a natural, instinctive response to threats but it becomes a problem when you have trouble controlling it, causing you to say or do things you regret. You have reported to have trouble controlling your anger and the causes being financial and professional stress. This can be due to multiple reasons some of them can be grief, anxiety, frustration, stress, irritability, etc. There are multiple ways to cope up with anger issues, i.e.: Relaxation techniques: These include breathing deeply and picturing relaxing scenes in your mind. When trying to relax, breathe from deep within your lungs, inhaling and exhaling slowly. Repeat a calming word or phrase, such as “relax” or “take it easy.” You may also want to visualize a relaxing experience, either from your memory or imagination. Yoga-like exercises may also help relax your body and make you feel calmer. Cognitive Reorganisation: Changing the way you think can change the way you express your anger. It’s important to focus on expressing rational, rather than irrational, thoughts. Avoid using the words “always” and “never” in your thoughts and speech. Such terms can make you feel like your anger is justified, which makes it worse. Problem Solving: The best way to approach a situation that’s making you angry is to not focus on the solution but to figure out how to address the problem.You can do that by making a plan and checking in with it often so that you can check your progress often. Communication: When one feels angry, they tend to jump to conclusions, which can be inaccurate. When you’re having an angry argument, slow down and think through your responses. Remember to listen to the other person in the conversation. Good communication can help you resolve problems before your anger escalates. We would highly recommend you to approach a professional counsellor/mental health practitioner (preferably someone with CBT specialisation) who would be able to guide you through in a safe and non-judgemental manner. It is perfectly okay to seek out professional help from mental health practitioners from organisations or independent set ups. Credits: Kaushik Kataria, Intern at Heart It Out

Dear human, thank you for sharing and reaching out. I appreciate your effort to seek help and I understand that being in your position can be quite discomforting. I assure you that you have made the right decision by reaching out for help and it’s a significant step In your mental health journey. I recommend you get therapy as it can help you to balance your personal and professional commitments by setting healthy boundaries. Therapy helps you to locate the source of your anger, process it, vent out in non-judgmental/safe space and also figure a beneficial way out of this. Meanwhile, trying the following can help you to manage your condition: 1. Focus on Relaxation-Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. Meditation and mindfulness are common strategies for reducing tension. Practice these techniques daily and learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation. Physical activity like regular exercise and yoga  can also improve your mood to increase your frustration tolerance. 2. Starting an Anger Diary-Journaling is a great way to vent in a healthier way. Writing when you feel angry not only helps release negative emotions but can also reduce physical pain. It can help you to see an anger-provoking situation in a different light and it’s also a way to track those triggers that really push your buttons. Anger can be a protective mask to help you avoid feeling more painful emotions, like sadness, and disappointment. 3. Better communication - If you're in a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering. Avoid criticizing or placing blame which will only increase tension and try being respectful and specific to set healthy boundaries. Take a time out if necessary to calm down and respond later. 4. Problem solving-Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse. Don’t focus on finding the solution, but rather on how you handle and face the problem. Resolve to give it your best, but also don’t punish yourself if an answer doesn't come right away. If you approach it with your best intentions and efforts, you will be less likely to lose patience and fall into all-or-nothing thinking, even if the problem does not get solved right away. 5. Create a Calm Down Kit- Think about objects that help engage all your senses. When you can look, hear, see, smell, and touch calming things, you can change your emotional state.The kit might include a scented hand lotion, a picture of a serene landscape, a spiritual passage you can read aloud, and a few pieces of your favorite candy. Include the things that you know will help you remain calm when you come home from work stressed or when your workplace meetings cause you a lot of frustration and refrain from venting it out on your family. Hope this helps :) Take care!

Hi, you can speak about what you are going through with a psychologist. Once you express yourself you will feel better. I understand you are going through financial stress and you feel angry. A psychologist will help and guide you with ways to manage anger. A psychologist will also help you explore goals and ways to overcome financial anxiety.

Consult a psychologist.

Hello! There are certain questions to ask, have you always been an angry person? You need to learn to compartmentalize personal and professional life. Learn healthy coping mechanisms. Anger is a cry of a person who is unable to communicate effectively with generates guilt as a by-product. Please see a counselling psychologist. She/he would help you with the same. This can be tweeked and worked on.

Please see a psychologist as soon as possible.

Hi, Few questions for you to ponder: (1) When did you realize that you are getting angry frequently? (2) What are the damages you faced due to your angry behavior? (3) What are your financial stress? Write it down on the paper (4) What are your professional stress? Analyze and act (5) Where did you get stuck? Probably you will get an idea after working on these questions. You can have a single sitting with a psychologist to help you better.