Consulted Dr. Neelima Deshpande (Sexologist)
I do not recommend the doctor
!!! DONT GO FOR THIS STRICTLY NO !!!
I went for the above said problems. my spouse and me had some differences, about i could not give her enough time and all after marriage. also related to sex frequency difference between us.
But what questions doctor asked rather you can say inserted some thoughts in my spouse's mind are like: 1) why you did not go for divorce? this was asked with very negative response from her. 2) also she manipulates who is weak between the two and then tells negative about the stronger one.
she in no way does counselling. She should enrich / try to enrich the relationship between us but she did the other way. she only blamed stronger one.
And most important if any person is in depression and he gets angry and shouts then according to her that person has personality disorder.
and she does not care to tell this thing in absence of that person.
Dr. Neelima Deshpande replied
I am sorry you felt this way. Your presenting problems determine how the doctor responds. If you know what you want it would solve your problem. There is no value in apportioning blame to either partner. To try to solve emotional problems is the goal of a variety of therapeutic measures. So I am sorry you feel this way. I dont believe in personality disorders without doing further detailed assessments. Questions during history taking are to assess the relationship as well as individual desires or preferences towards the relationship. In the absence of a strong relationship with good communication sex therapy is of no value.