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Struggling with ED
I have been struggling with self esteem issues for 4-5 months when i found out about my partner cheated on me with other women, it has affected me more deeply than i comprehended at that point, ever since than I'm struggling with my relationship with food, I'm never hungry and I'm scared of carbs fat and sugar which i used to enjoy earlier in moderation, idk what i am trying to gain by loosing interest in my daily meals, it's like I'm getting pleasure in avoiding meals by starving myself, as if I deserved it, it has come to a point where food makes me nauseous, i try to avoid as much as possible or only eat for survival, i just really really miss enjoying my meals, being excited about eating new dishes or just eating my lunch everyday. Idk what to do or where to start, i have also increased my caffeine intake as it gives me the illusion of being full while being empty stomach. I hope i was better and healthy.
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It is normal to feel negative emotions after such a significant life event. But if it has been interfering with your biodrives like appetite, sleep and is thus disrupting your routine healthy life, it will need and greatly benefit with pharmacological treatment.
Kindly consult a psychiatrist as early as possible to avoid worsening of symptoms.
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Do not stretch the symptoms for long, approach a psychiatrist
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Hi.. appears that you are depressed. However will need further history regarding the same to advise appropriately. Consult online for treatment
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Thank you for reaching out and sharing your experience so openly. Iâm truly sorry you're going through this â emotional pain from betrayal can deeply affect both mental and physical well-being, including your relationship with food.
The changes youâve described are important to address. I strongly recommend consulting a psychologist for a detailed assessment. This will help us understand the root causes and guide you toward supportive strategies to rebuild self-esteem and restore a healthy relationship with food.
Support is available, and healing is possible.
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Hello ma'am
Your symptoms show signs of mix of depression, anxiety and also could be eating disorders (if the case)
There is a need for direct communication so as to come to adequate diagnosis and treatment and for further assessment of the symptoms
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kindly consult online for further management and treatment
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Hey
— this isn’t just about food or appetite; it’s about grief, betrayal, and how your body is trying to make sense of the pain. When someone we love breaks our trust, it often turns inward — we stop feeding ourselves, not just with food but with compassion, joy, and care. Avoiding meals can feel like control in a world that suddenly became unsafe, but underneath it, there’s a deep longing for safety and self-worth again.
Let’s take this slowly. The goal isn’t to force yourself to eat but to reconnect with food as an act of self-care, not punishment. Start with one small, nourishing meal a day — not for calories, but for kindness. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to a friend who’s hurting: gently, without judgment. Healing won’t be linear, but you can feel excited about food again, about life again. You don’t have to do this alone.
Take therapy, and you can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Based on the information provided, followed a significant life event, you started losing interest in many activities and has many difficulties with food. It happens after such incident, but you need proper evaluation and need appropriate treatment for betterment of your life.
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First, thank you for sharing something so personal and painful. What you’re experiencing is incredibly difficult, and I want you to know that your feelings are valid. Being betrayed by someone you trusted deeply can shake your sense of self-worth and control, and it’s understandable that it has impacted your relationship with food and your body.
What you're describing may be signs of an eating disorder, which often stems from a need to reclaim control, self-punishment, or intense anxiety. This isn't your fault-and you do deserve help, healing, and nourishment.
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Please consider speaking to a mental health professional or a therapist. You don’t have to go through this alone, and there is hope to feel better again.
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1. Seek Therapy- A therapist- especially one experienced in trauma and eating disorders- can help unpack the emotional pain and build healthier coping strategies.
2. Start Journaling: Write freely about emotions, especially when urges to skip meals or over-control food arise. This can help you externalize and understand your feelings.
3. Challenge Negative Self-Talk: When you think "I deserve to starve" or "I'm not good enough," pause and counter that thought with one kind truth about yourself.
4. Eat Small, Gentle Meals: Start with small, non-intimidating meals (soups, smoothies, toast, fruits). Don’t worry about 'perfect nutrition' right now- just focus on consistency.
5. Create a Routine: Try to eat at the same times daily, even if it's a few bites. Your body thrives on rhythm, even when your mind is unsettled.
6. Avoid Food Rules: It’s okay to eat carbs, fats, and sugar. You once enjoyed them, and your body still needs them. Let food be nourishment, not punishment.
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Dr. Sunil Nagar
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17 yrs exp
Rewa
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Dr. Saloni Seth Agarwal
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Delhi
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This needs further evaluation for a detailed history clarification,either in person or online as soon as possible .
From what you have very nicely listed here ,it seems to be a case of restrictive food eating but can be a part of other symptoms also …so needs a detailed evaluation by a Qualified Psychiatrist.
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