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Parents unsatisfied with my married life
Ours is a nuclear family, myself, parents and my younger brother.. I got married recently during covid and delivered a child 10 months back so living with my parents as iam it emp wfh.My husband works in another city so comes home monthly once.. He is not just a gud husband but also a good son in law.. It's a love marriage, He hasn't taken any dowry, not even any money from my parents during my pregnancy or delivery.. But my parents feel bad everyday that i don't have a house for myself.. My husband has a house in village but i can't live there alone with my mil as iam a working mother and need help in taking care of baby that is why iam with my parents.. When I got married during covid time and both of us are working in different places due to wfh, how can I have a house for myself... Once iam also called to office, then I can stay with my husband as we are working in same city and everything will be set.. Why can't my parents understand this no matter how many times I explain them..
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After a period of time staying long with parents is very toxic.
No matter it's mom Or MiL. Let's think in their point of view, they struggled a lot for their own children, they are now grownups, handling grownups is tough. So it's obvious that they express displeasure.
When we are able to take decision to lead our life, we have to stick to it. You can move a separate flat with your kid, as of now you are WFH so fine. Just because he didn't take dowry one cannot become a hero, marriage is important to him also.
I recommend to see a therapist for couple counseling.
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Hi, I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I see this might be a difficult situation for you as you are called to make a choice. I see there is pressure from your own parents in one way or the other and somehow it seems to be stressing you out. We can work together on releasing that stress and after that, together decide what you would like to do with your own life. It will help you feel more empowered and more in control of your life.
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Hi, Your parents may be unhappy because you chose your life partner yourself. They didn't get an opportunity to choose a son in law according to their wish. This may be a way of showing their emotions . Give them time .
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Couple counseling and family therapy is advised
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You both need couple counseling sessions.
You would be benefited.
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you can contact me through online appointment for further assistance
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you might be going through. Things might be feeling out of your reach and control. You want to stay with your husband but you are not able to due to distance. You might also be facing adjustment issues and might be feeling alone in this.
Don't worry, you can also consult a good therapist or a psychologist as soon as possible.
You can also contact me and I will try to help you in this. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solution.
Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Bangalore
It ok..parents are over protective ..they feel overwhelmed regarding there children..just be calm and dont give explanation regarding the same.to understand it broader way you can connect with psychologist as well
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
I think you people need to start living in the city where you are working actually..
Anyways, you are doing work from home..
Practice to manage all by yourself and start your family life.
Probably that's what your parents are also looking for..
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