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Hi, I need counselling for my daughter 16 years old. She was a bright student but now she is distracted from studies and has been depressed due to some family issues..
How can i help her.
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You have recognised there is something bothering your child that is the first step in helping her. Before taking her for counseling, you can try the following:
- Try to connect with her and ask if she would like to share with you what is bothering her.
Be accepting of her feelings and thoughts if she shares.
- Give reassurance that you are always available to understand and help her and she can reach out to you any time.
- If the family issue can be resolved or minimized, consider taking steps in that direction. If it cannot, help her build emotional coping skills to deal with the stress. Teaching her how to manage difficult emotions and building her resilience can help.
- It is always good to avoid labels such as depressed unless diagnosed by a professional. With all the changes happening in terms of physical growth, social expectations and academic pressure, adolescence is a crucial age and increased parental communication and empathy can serve as a protective factor during this phase.
-Parents and caregivers are first level counselors whose love, care and an understanding and accepting approach can provide much better support in the initial stages of any concern.
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If her distress continues or affects her everyday functioning, gently talk to her about seeking professional help. Let her know what she can expect from therapy and involve her in the decision-making process. If she is not ready, respect her decision, but keep the conversation open and ongoing.
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Hello, thank you for reaching out â itâs a very important step.
Adolescence is a sensitive phase, and family stressors can deeply impact a teenagerâs emotional well-being, motivation, and focus. The change youâve observed in your daughter may be her way of expressing distress.
I would recommend starting with a few supportive counselling sessions where she has a safe, non-judgmental space to express her feelings. A psychologist can help assess her emotional state, address symptoms of low mood or depression, and gently guide her back toward academic focus and self-confidence.
You being attentive to her changes is already a powerful way of helping. Please donât hesitate to schedule a consultation â early support can make a lasting difference.
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Understand her needs
Give her freedom
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child psychotherapy
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empathy
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Yes you can connect online or offline
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It’s clear both of you are hurting, just in different ways. The daughter feels unheard and misunderstood, while the mother likely feels overwhelmed, maybe even confused about how to help. That tension isn’t one-sided. It’s a loop.
This isn’t about who’s right. It’s about breaking a cycle that’s quietly burning both ends.
Counseling isn’t an admission of failure, it’s a sign that both of you care enough to pause, reflect, and learn how to hear each other again. Not just speak. Hear.
If there’s love (and there is), then the next step isn’t fixing each other, it’s understanding each other, with someone who can help guide the conversation. That’s where healing starts.
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Your concern as a parent shows how deeply you care, and reaching out now can make a big difference in your daughter’s life. At 16, teens often struggle to express emotional pain, and family stress can quickly impact their focus, self-worth, and mood. The shift from being a bright student to seeming distracted or low is not a failure — it’s a sign she’s overwhelmed and needs emotional safety more than pressure.
Here’s how you can support her:
• Create a non-judgmental space where she feels heard without being corrected
• Gently encourage therapy as a support, not a punishment — say, “It’s a space just for you, to feel lighter.”
• Validate her emotions instead of fixing them — phrases like “It’s okay to feel that way” work better than “Just focus on studies.”
With proper counselling, she can regain her confidence, process her emotions, and reconnect with her strengths.
Take therapy, and you can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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hi,
I'm a psychological counsellor, trained from University of Oxford. If you consider going ahead, you can WhatsApp me on eight two seven six nine, one two six seven two.
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Hi ma’am
Where are you from so that we can refer you at the nearest place.
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
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I am a teenage/ high school counsellor with 10 years of experience and understand what teenagers are currently going through.
Contact me - eight three six eight zero five three seven one zero
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Ms. Shilpa Gandhi
Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Pune
You've already taken a powerful first step by noticing the change and reaching out.
Sometimes, teens open up more when they’re not being directly asked. Try a “side-by-side” conversation—like during a drive or while doing something together (cooking, walking). No eye contact takes off the pressure, and emotions flow more naturally.
Let her know you’re not there to fix her—but to understand her. That single shift can open a door. And yes, counselling can help her rebuild confidence, clarity, and calm.
Feel free to connect if you'd like guidance tailored to her unique stage.
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connect
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1.Be available without expectations
2.Suggest support, don’t impose
3.Offer non-verbal outlets
4.Remind her she’s not alone
If you’d like more details on how to apply these or need further guidance, feel free to connect with me.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Appreciate you initiative and the concern as a mother.
You can fix an appointment with a therapist for your daughter either for an online or Offline consultation..
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Counselling Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Delhi
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I am a child psychologist you can connect with me if you want
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Seek help
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Ms. Farheen Moulana
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
Please connect with me as I have experience working with children and adolescents. With a structured therapy I can help her navigate the challenges she is facing and support her to express and process her feelings, thoughts and the current environment she is in. Please get in touch with me for the same
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi...First step is to seek her willingness to take Counselling/ Psychotherapy. Sometimes when it is enforced by others the outcome becomes minimal. So one has to be willing to seek help. Finding the right therapist is the second step. It will be good if your daughter chooses her therapist among a list of few. Then comes the real part,i.e, starting therapy. It usually takes 6-8 months of weekly sessions to recover from complex adolescent issues. In order to heal her better you may seek guidance to help bring change in her family environment. Remember, when dealing with adolescents, always seek their approval in the matters of their relevance. It helps bring their commitment and ownership.
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Consult a Psychologist.
CBT along with Interpersonal Guidance and Counselling is required.
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Cell: nine six seven one three zero three one three four
Website: https://gunjanmaithil.wixsite.com/therapy
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
Your daughter's mental health is a matter of concern to you and it is understandable when a bright student is not unable to optimise her potential.
The reasons for the stress need to be addressed. Subsequently she can develop coping mechanisms through therapy and counseling.
You would require patience to continuously reassure her to keep her focus on her goals and that she can create a better future . It shall build her confidence that you are there with her through this.
Counseling sessions shall be beneficial for your daughter, as information regarding her concern can be better understood and addressed in a relevant manner.
I wish her and you more power to overcome this phase successfully.
You can consult for further professional guidance.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
You can connect with child and adolescent psychologist.
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connect
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consult
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Dr. Aarushi Dewan (PhD)
Clinical Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Delhi
Role of family environment and parenting is very significant in a child’s personality development and schema formation.
Disturbed family environment is detrimental for child’s emotional well being.
You should consult a RCI Licensed Clinical Psychologist for family therapy sessions and individual sessions for your daughters.
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Booking a family therapy session with a family therapist
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Understand her personality
Take her to a teen counselor
Do a lot of active listening
Set small hobbies and realistic goals of her interests
Spend mom daughter time, take her out, so she feels comfortable to open up
Just be with her
If you still have any queries or challenges, Connect with me I shall help as a counsellor.
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Ms. Asha Jible
Counselling Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Bangalore
Take her to a Counselor who could help her to understand what’s going on.
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Mr. Fr Dr John Zachariah
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Ernakulam
Hi consult a counselling psychologist
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consult our psychologist in ernakulam
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