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I am suffering from separation anxiety
From last few months i am suffering from separation anxiety - Fear of losing my parents. This anxiety leads to acidity problem. Two months back my mom was not well. For that one week my anxiety was on the peak. I took 'Alprax' tablet to relax my mind. I never felt that kind of tension before in my life. Last month i felt sick i got the same kind of anxiety. Today my father felt dizziness (might to due to cervical issue). So today while giving him water I noticed my hands were trembling. But today my tension was less as compared to last months(now i am doing breathing yoga daily). But most of the times my mind doesnt stop think that what will happen if something happen to them, How will i be able to pursue my life without them? Etc. I am dependent on them from financially to support system. Please give me some tips to deal with it.It has made me weak internally and externally also. I am folding my hands in front you doctors please please help me.
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i would advise you to visit a counselling psychologist and discuss your issues and dilema with them freely without hiding anything. You will start feeling alright with just a few therapy sessions.
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Hey Try these when you're feeling anxious or stressed: Take a time-out. Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, or learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from the problem helps clear your head. Eat well-balanced meals. Do not skip any meals. Do keep healthful, energy-boosting snacks on hand. Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks. Get enough sleep. When stressed, your body needs additional sleep and rest. Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health. Check out the fitness tips below. Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly. Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary. Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn't possible, be proud of however close you get. Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think? Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way. Maintain a positive attitude. Make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Get involved. Volunteer or find another way to be active in your community, which creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress. Learn what triggers your anxiety. Is it work, family, school, or something else you can identify? Write in a journal when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, and look for a pattern. Importantly Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling All the best :)
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Anxiety can create lot of symptoms in your body and mind. Thinking negatively about ur health and parents can create fear in you. You can pursue your life taking steps to lead your life. U take responsibility to handle your life. First accept ur life what has happened and happening. Further consultation contact with me via practo.
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I understand that this is extremely difficult for you. It is painful to look at the reality and the uncertainty and it is definitely not easy to confront it when it comes along. However it is important to understand that it is the reality. There are ways in which this uncertainty can be death with using certain coping mechanisms.
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It would be nice if you consult a counseling psychologist for the same. You can contact me as well through the information provided here.
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Continue with your breathing exercises, however, try to stay grounded and more in the present rather than thinking about what is going to happen
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I understand your predicament. Here are a few suggestions that could help you : Awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with the challenges you are facing right now. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Today the mind might be fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be another topic/event/person. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You may either have thoughts about the past or the future. This keeps alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. Just like how the clothes you are wearing right now are yours, but not you, thoughts that you experience from time to time are yours, but not you. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, we may still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. When you repeatedly focus on a thought ( that springs from a belief that you have and which is threatening or disturbing by nature ) instead of letting it go, the corresponding emotion rises in your brain. It overpowers your capability to think rationally. You feel imprisoned by your own thoughts and emotions. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Fighting a thought is like fighting a shadow. You can see it, but it's not real. Fighting a thought or emotion only gives it more power. Like for ex, when they ask you not to think of a pink elephant, the first thought that invariably comes to you is that of a pink elephant. Instead, what we can do is, learning to be a distant observer of thoughts ( that are only based on past experiences and hence are no longer true or relevant today or do not serve your highest good ) and not act on them. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. Here is a breathing exercise that could help you : You may do this in the night too once you have finished with your tasks for the day : Inhale slowly to a count of four - hold your breath to a count of four - exhale slowly to a count of eight. Repeat this twenty times. You may do this also in the morning before you begin your daily routine. Gently massage the back of your neck and the base of the skull when you lie down to rest. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world. What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world? Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs. Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of the kind of feedback you received while growing up - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow. One of the definitions of stress is the thought(s) or the belief that you don't have the capability and the resources to address, to deal with, to successfully overcome the challenge(s) that is right in front of you now. Consider the components of this equation - On one end you have the object that induces this belief in you ( it might be a person/event/situation ). Reflect on the possible sources of stress for you. Is there anything you can do to change this side of the equation? On the other end, you have your resources to tackle it - reflect on whether you have done all you can to prepare for it/address it/ do justice to it. When thoughts of such nature plague you, it is natural to take comfort in self-pity, anger, frustration, and so on. The state of our mind has a bearing on our physical health too. So, addressing the root cause will help you overcome any physical challenges you might be experiencing too. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. Here are a few links that could be helpful : https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41615 https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41716 https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41867 https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41735 https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41642 https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41639 Step One https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41640 Step Two https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41641 Step Three https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41645 Step Four Take care.
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Basic rules of psychology be practical and realistic.. We all will leave one day.. You, me, every one including your parents.. This is the reality.. There is no point in hiding this.. Face it.. Having understood this basic stronger,  you need to proceed your life with your full potential.. In wat ever you do.. Enjoy life and Time you r with your parents.. Live in present moment..
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no day dreaming business..  no point in trembling in fear.. trembling occasionally is ok.. don't worry.. about future.. specifically
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contact me for in depth sessions.. good luck
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I appreciate that you are doing breath exercise and Yoga. I understand your fear and anxiety about your future. In your position most of the people feel and experience similar kind of pressure and anxiety. Now the thing is you have to accept and handle your situation with the trained mind and heart. Become fearless and face the situation with profound amount of confidence. Feeling anxiety and find the way to resolve it, it means that you are already half achieved, only small portion of it is left. You can do it
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Train your heart and mind to face the uncertainty and to establish the happiness and prosperity in life.
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