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Guilt and Shame
I infected my mom with Covid last year because I was careless and went out enjoying with friends in this Pandemic.. She was hospitalised for 16 days but recovered.. But sadly got lung fibrosis.. Now she got gallstones and needs operation but Doctor says it is vert high risk due to her lung condition which was a result of Covid that I gave her.. I feel guilty everyday for my sin and have now devoted my life in serving my mom but the fear of losing her is constant because of this upcoming operation thing.. If anything happens to her, It will be my fault.. How will I live with this? Why did this happened by me only? How can one do this to their own mom? I feel terrible every single day and have lost the will to live.. I beg for an answer 🙏
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Hi It is important to remember that your mother getting covid is not in your control. You don’t have to feel guilty. It is important to remember that you are a responsible person and you are taking care of your mom. To feel better you can consult a psychologist and take up counseling sessions.
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It seems to be PTSD induced stress disorder. It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated. It can be well treated with counseling sessions and medication if required.
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When feelings of guilt affect daily life ITS IMPORTANT TO REACH OUT FOR HELP. THERAPY CAN HELP YOU WORK THROUGH EMOTIONS & EXPLORE WAYS TO CREATE CHANGE .
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Promise Yourself To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you. Christian D. Larson, Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. Victor Hugo
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Hello dear I can understand how you are feeling and what you are going through. You might be dealing with guilt that it is because of you that your mom is going through a lot. But your mom getting COVID-19 was not in your control. No one wants their parents or loved ones to go through pain because of them. Don't worry, consult a good therapist or a psychologist as soon as possible. You can also contact me and I will help you towards your recovery. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solutions. Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got it!!
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Dear, I understand what you are going through.. You are carrying lot of guilt inside.. I want to help u to let go your guilt. You need to seek the truth of life.
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