Feeling guilty. Unbearable. pls advise.

Death is a natural phenomena so stop blaming yourself first. You can take help from the professional and you must take some online counseling session for avoiding the things. Do meditation and yoga joi healthy environment ,go out with your frnds

I’m so sorry for your loss, this can be a difficult time for you. Grief counseling really helps. Also, when a loved one passes away and being the sole caregiver can stir so many emotions These are stages of grief -guilt being one, questioning oneself Please seek help for therapy

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Hey After any type of trauma, the best motive for a person to move on is to first: 1) Look realistically at what one could have done to change the event. 2) What power did the person really have in the conclusion of the event or in the person involved in the event? And, most importantly, 3) What is the purpose of feeling guilt over the event? Sometimes guilt is a bi-product of feeling control over another actions or outcomes. If I had only done this or that, the event wouldn't have happened. The event still would have happened, of course, since we as powerless individuals have absolutely no control or power over another's actions or decisions. But it feels good to have this illusion of control over others which also provides us with a sense of safety in that we can prevent them from leaving us. The motive to continue on in life is to drop the guilt, learn from the event, and then share the knowledge gained from it with others. An example would be Mothers Against Drunk Drivers, MADD. They are an organization that have had a loved one effected because of drunk drivers and are trying to get these drivers off the road. Please consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online All the best

Hi Very sorry for your loss. Often when we loose someone dear we think of all the things we could have done differently that could have helped the person survive. Guilt is an emotion that causes a lot of distress and discomfort.

Grief counselling where you openly talk about death, your insecurities, your loss and so on provides great help with guilt. You can contact me on Practo and we can talk about this in more detail.

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Here are a few suggestions that could be helpful : When you begin to focus on what's calling for your attention and needs to be addressed within you, you will be able to overcome the challenges you are dealing with right now. You cannot drive out darkness dealing with it face-to-face. But once you light a candle, darkness automatically disappears. The nature of the mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it tends to keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Today the mind might be fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be another topic/event/person. Another important characteristic of thoughts is this - You may either have thoughts about the past or the future ( for instance, guilt about experiences deemed to be ' failures ' in the past or anxiety about what might happen in the future ). Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that you cannot have thoughts about the present moment. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states may keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. Just like how the clothes you are wearing right now are yours, but not you, thoughts that you experience from time to time are yours, but not you. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. When you repeatedly focus on a thought, say, a thought which is threatening or disturbing by nature and identify with it, believing it to be true, the corresponding emotion rises in your brain. It overpowers your capability to think rationally. The cycle repeats and hence you feel imprisoned by your own thoughts and emotions. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts that are healthy enough to be acted upon. You will also be able to be more aware of your emotions and this awareness will help you manage them better. Figuratively speaking, all emotions come through the same pipeline and hence you cannot and need not selectively block a few and welcome the others. Awareness puts you back in charge whereby you can channelize them better. Usually when we experience disturbing thoughts, we may tend to fight, resist or control them. Again, fighting a thought is like fighting a shadow. You can see it, but it's not real. Fighting a thought or emotion only gives it more power. Say, for instance, when someone asks you not to think of a pink elephant, the first thought that invariably comes to you is that of a pink elephant. Instead, what we can do is, learning to be an observer of such thoughts ( that do not serve your highest good ) and not identify with them or act on them. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs have an impact on your psychological and emotional well being. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of words you choose to speak about yourself and others, the kind of company you keep ( ' You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with ' - these five people need not be physically present. They could be role models who have walked the path and show you the way. ) Here is a breathing exercise that could help you : You may do this in the night once you have finished with your tasks for the day : Inhale slowly to a count of four - hold your breath to a count of four - exhale slowly to a count of eight. Repeat this ten times. You may do this also in the morning before you begin your daily routine. Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world. What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world? What are those beliefs on the basis of which you feel that you are not worthy enough to be deserving the right to lead the kind of life that you truly deserve to live ? Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs. Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of some of the feedback you might have received in the past - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow. The next time you experience overwhelming thoughts or emotions, try observing the thoughts and sensations without judging them as threatening, knowing that it is like a wave that ebbs and falls and that it will pass. Keep your focus on your breathing throughout. You will see for yourself that with practice, you are able to manage such situations quite well. Please set aside time for exercise daily and try to eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. 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