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Mine is a middle class family myself, younger brother, mom and dad. Mom is a retired govt employee, dad is jobless. Mom bought a house with her retirement amount and that is for my brother. I have been a merit student since my childhood so entire studies till PG except schooling was finished with almost no fee except for books and exam fee Then I have been working since 5 yrs before my marriage and i haven't saved a penny for myself in those 5 yrs as I took responsibility of my family expenses and bro education as mothers pension was going for houseloan. Mine is a love marriage so no dowry. So no expenses from my side for my education and marriage,pregnancy, delivery. i recently delivered a child and have been living with my parents as iam wfh and it is difficult to manage child with office work.my husband works in another city and comes once in a month to stay with us for a week or so.my mom dad are asking me amount for mine and baby's expenses.they get 8k pension and bro earns 1 lac.
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This is a Patriarchal cultural society, parents save money, for a male child only, now matter the money might be pouring , still they care about each and every penny.
You are a strong survivor of this typical culture.
Today you stood on your own, it is all your earning, celebrate your success.
Patriarchal people might even think that it was your responsibility, like your mom took care of family and a jobless husband and saved money for her SON.
You should feel proud instead feeling low and bad,as each and every seed of your food is earned by you. Where many people keep fail and take parents help.
You are capable, you can lead your life with dignity, still it's WFH right?
You can move to your husband place and hire an assistant.
Or you have attachment with family stay back with parents, pay same, and live like a queen.
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If you are capable of paying that amount, u should pay. Complaining won't help much. Since u r working from home, u can spend sometime with your husband too in his place, if that suits u. I think that will help u to release unnecessary stress from ur life and u will enjoy family time also.
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As you have mentioned, you have been independent for your whole life till now. Being a mother is a job itself, so you need support from someone. The husband has his own responsibilities. You have to make a decision, whether you want to stay with your parents or if possible with your husband. Every family dynamic is different, what matters is our own priority and peace of mind.
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Be calm and focus on your mental health. Talk to a psychologist if you need professional help.
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Dont feel bad but cope with present situation. Be non judgmental. Maintain your responsibilities as a Mother.
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you might be going through. The system in which you are living is not new in the Indian Patriarchal society. But still you can try to get your own solutions.
Don't worry, consult a good therapist or a psychologist as soon as possible.
You can also contact me and I will try to help you in this. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solutions.
Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
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13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi.. This pandemic and economic downturn has caused many families to rearrange their internal economy and also created a socially and emotionally challenging situation for everyone. And this crisis is still not over. Crisis has a way of challenges human beliefs, values, bonds.
The best you can do is to have control on your words and actions. Do as much as you can and leave what you can't do. Do not ask others to do their part stating that you have done yours. In a crisis people are insecure and may respond very differently than in a normal situation. In a family it will become more challenging if people start arguing on who has contributed more.
If still you are unable to support financially, you can choose to go live with your husband. Your parents will be able to manage their finances and will discuss own their own with your brother to support them if they feel so.
Be mindful of not using hurtful words as it will stay in the minds of your loved ones for much longer period of time.
Change is the only constant and this crisis will also be over. You yourself will be earning an income where these expenses will appear very small. So be mindful of not doing anything that you will regret later. Also, don't try to assess their love towards you or your kid in this crisis situation.
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Ms. Smriti
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19 yrs exp
Bangalore
Every family infact every individual is different what matter is your peace of mind..plz connect with me I will help you .
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Hi,
As per the present situation you need family support for proper nurturing of your child, so keep a healthy conversation with your parents and try to sort out issues asap.
If they have already asking you expenses than as per my personal opinion you should give expenses for now, they is no point of telling what you have done for them. Also simultaneously look for better alternate way also.
As you have mentioned only a part of present situation, i think discuss with a mental health care professional in detail for further solutions.
Thanks and Regards
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