Excessive anxiety. What should i do?

Hi You are feeling upset and angry and you don’t feel like mingling with people. You are talking negative about yourself and you blame yourself even when you are not wrong. It is important to know since when have you been feeling upset and angry and what is causing you to feel upset and angry. You are also feeling nervous, confused, and fatigued. Consult a psychologist and talk about what is bothering you. A psychologist will help you feel good about yourself and help you feel motivated. With a psychologist you can talk about what is causing you to feel horrible about yourself. It is important to remember that you can feel good about yourself and you will be able to face people. You are a good and caring person. Counseling sessions will help you feel better. A psychologist will help you practice self-care and self appreciation. A psychologist will guide you on ways to fight fatigue and feel energetic.

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"7 Golden Steps To Self-Discipline         1.   Expose Your Mind to Positive Messages. Your mind is your world. It is where you win or lose the battle of life. Therefore take care of it. Feed it with motivational and inspirational messages daily (audios, videos, books etc).  You will eventually become what you read or hear about all the time. So stop reading pointless books or watching unhelpful TV programmes that may further escalate your fear, doubts, and lack of self-discipline. Whatever is not contributing positively to your goals is merely eating up your valuable time and attention, thereby weakening your resilience for achieving greatness. When you focus on changing the way you think by accessing quality motivational/inspirational messages, you will most certainly change the course of your life. A couple of things happen in your mind when you are exposed to motivational messages. Firstly, your self-esteem improves, and because of that, you feel a lot better about yourself as all your self-doubts and inferiority complexes are de-escalated. Secondly, it induces your mind with courage to face your fears, since one of the reasons people quit pursuing their dreams is fear (of failure or rejection). Positive messages from great motivational/ inspirational speakers will train your mind to see fear not as a stopping stone, but as a stepping stone to your accomplishments. The strength of your courage and determination to succeed will be decided by the quality of your learning.         2.   Hang Out With Positive People. If all your friends lack self-discipline, you will struggle to have it yourself. “You are the average of the five people you hang around with most of the time,” said Jim Rohn, personal development author and speaker. If you desire great self-discipline, look for friends who are positive, goal-oriented, results-driven, and who value excellence and integrity. You can also join a master-mind group, where you hang out with like-minded people who either have gone through what you are currently going through or are in a similar situation as yourself, but are unwilling to stay there, striving collectively to attain self-disciplines that lead to happiness and success. The encouragement and inspiration you will find in such atmosphere will be crucial to your motivation and determination. You’ll then begin to think, “If they can do it, I too can.”         3.   Determine How Badly You Want Your Desired Goal. If your “WHY” is strong enough, you will have the strength to follow through on “WHAT” you need to do to create your desired goal. For example, if the reason you want to stop smoking is to be alive long enough for the benefit of your children and you really want that badly enough, this strong desire will assist you to break the habit of smoking. I recently heard a true life-story about a mother of three young children who was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She was told to put her house in order because she only had less than six months to live. But this woman really wanted to live. Above all things, her greatest desire was to see her three children graduate from university. Because she wanted this so badly, somehoso badly, somehow six months passed and she was still alive. Sixteen years later, she attended her youngest child’s graduation ceremony, having already attended those of her two older children. Then six weeks later she passed away. She had already fulfilled her dream. She wanted her dream so badly that even the Giver of life Himself cooperated with her to flood her fragile physical health condition with divine energy to see her dream come true. This can also be your experience in anything you want to achieve — if only you want your goal badly enough!         4.   Visualize Yourself As Already In Possession Of The Self-Discipline Required to Achieve Your Goals. It is very difficult to actualize anything you cannot visualize. Everything great that man has ever accomplished on earth began in the imagination. Look around you right now. Whatever you can see was first envisioned and executed in the imagination. Therefore, engage your own visualization energy. See yourself as already possessing the self-discipline and habits necessary to link you to your goals. If you can vividly paint on the platform of your imagination the picture of your goals as being already accomplished, and then sustain that picture long enough, that picture will eventually become your reality. Check out my audio programme on the The Power Of Optimism. It’ll power-charge your imagination for success and happiness. It is said in the bible that, “As he thinks in his heart, so is he,” (Proverbs 23:7). Man becomes what he thinks about all the time. Therefore, do not see yourself as you are right now, but as you desire to be. Napoleon Hill, the author of the classic book entitled Think and Grow Rich, reiterated, “Whatever a mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” So begin to visualize your goal in its completed state!         5.   Set Small and Achievable Goals. The human brain is a goal-striving entity, containing a success mechanism which is only activated by a measurable and achievable goal.  So to begin with, make your goal very small, small enough for you to be able to complete it. For example if you want to write a book, set a goal to start writing short articles, maybe once a week on your chosen topic (probably related to the subject you desire to write a book on). Make sure it’s not more than 300 words. Keep it short and simple. Once you collect many little successes of a few completed articles, your brain begins to redesign itself, redefining you as a completer, and not a quitter — it starts to label you as someone who enjoys the victory of completion. And as your brain rewrites your personal history, your mind also develops strong positive mental muscles, and then your self-confidence improves, all of which will eventually strengthens you to achieve your bigger goals.   6.   Become Accountable to Somebody. This is one of the most powerful tools for growing self-discipline and producing to the maximum. Telling someone about what you want to achieve and asking them to keep you accountable will not only unlock a river of passion in you, it will also force you to become results-oriented, which is a valuable key to success. You’ll find yourself persevering in your daily self-discipline because you really want to stay consistent with what you said you would do to others. This principle has helped me a lot personally. My wife, Emma, is my first agent for accountability. I remember when I wanted to write a certain book in four months, the first thing I did was to make my idea known to her. And because of that verbal commitment I made to her, I went on to defy all challenges and discouragements to complete the book just in time. It really works!         7.   Get to Work, Take Action. Relevant and consistent actions are the miracle agents that transform intangible dreams into tangible reality. After you have observed all the above steps, it is time to take action. Write down what you really want, and why you want it. Then create achievable daily small steps towards reaching your goal. You must understand, however, that it will be hard at the start, but once a habit is formed, it becomes easier. It is said that there are two types of courage necessary for success: the courage to start something and the courage to persevere in it until completion. So, what you want to do is to persevere through adversities and be courageous. Do not give up! Psychologists tell us that a habit is often formed between 21 to 30 days of continuous and uninterrupted actions. So, never stop completing your daily small goals until you do not feel like stopping anymore. When that happens, a positive habit has been born. You’ve just learnt the greatest single key to personal effectiveness and significance. You are now on your way to creating a productive and fulfilled life! You have acquired the most important virtue for happiness and success — self-discipline. May I leave you with the wise words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, the American essayist and poet: “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” You are always as successful as the magnitude of fear you are willing to conquer, through your daily self-discipline. Keep on living, loving and learning, and see you at the TOP." (Reference material)

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You cannot swim for new horizons until you have courage to lose sight of the shore." William Faulkner

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Hello dear I can understand what you might be going through. It might be very hard for you to control your anxiety and frustration and thoughts related to that. But it's good that you want to do something regarding this. Don't worry, consult a good therapist or a counsellor as soon as possible. You can also contact me and I will try to help you towards your recovery. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solutions. Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!