Depressing and angry. Negative thinking?

don't give them the power... smile laugh it of accept what they say what they say wont make you that. take therapy with or any other psychologist online all the best

Hello Practo user, I understand how you feel. Indeed, the people we interact with or have a company of affect us in lenghts. They affect us emotionally, they influence our behaviour and actions. However, we cannot control the people surrounding us but we definitely can change the way we look at things and our responses towards them. A clinical Psychologist would be able to help you with regulating your emotions and guide you with strategies that can help you in maintaining a healthy balance of emotions. You can maintain a diary where in you can note down what are the situations in which you feel angry, what are your strategies in overcoming your anger, how long it lasts. This would help you in knowing the triggers in your environment. When you feel angry take 3 deep breaths. I suggest you to start your therapy sessions.

Consult a clinical Psychologist

Maintain anger journal, take deep breaths

Hi,  i understand how you feel bad when someone finds fault in you.  First you have to accept the things,  see what you can take from them and ignore the rest.  Ultimately its only you who decides what to take in.  So whatever you take in should help you. Try to process information and take only things that makes you happy in to mind.

Try these,  if you still need help consult psychologist.

give positive affirmation, practise mindfulness,   listen to music

Hi. Thank you for sharing your concern. Such experiences can cause us to feel insecure and it can make us angry or frustrated. The best way to handle such situation would be to start accepting them as events and not as part of life change. People will say but it is upto you what you consider and take.

Take things one day at a time.

Its really difficut to control other person's thought processes,but how one perceives their comments is in his/her control.I know its not possible to neglect the negative comments,however psychotherapy and counselling can help you take those comments more positively and realistically.

I would suggest you to take online sessions with a psychologist during this pandemic,so as to get better way of dealing with you problem as soon as possible.

Sometimes though we know the right way to deal with a situation we still seek guidance for better handling,in your case a psychologist will be of immense help.Good luck!

Hi, None of us enjoy getting criticized. It's human nature to enjoy being right and feel a sense of hurt and angry if someone finds fault or wrong in us. The thing is, we all need criticism, those who disagree with us truly help us grow. The ones who call us out, point out our weaknesses and flaws. Tips to handle criticism 1. Listen and keep open mind 2. See what you can learn from criticism 3. Don't take things personally 4. Do not get defensive and start making excuses. 5. Say thank you and move on

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Story therapy for anger management Beautiful story for anger management😊 A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes and begins his meditation. After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own. With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared disturb his meditation. But when he opens his eyes, he sees it’s an empty boat that had probably got untethered and floated to the middle of the lake. At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization, and understands that the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him. From then on, whenever he comes across someone who irritates him or provokes him to anger, he reminds himself, “The other person is merely an empty boat. The anger is within me.” Surround yourself to family, pets, music, plants, hobbies, whatever(happy is everywhere). Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. We all need to live life to its fullest each day, Be Happy 💐💐 Dr. Sampath MD, DNB Psychiatrist Positive Psychologist

I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them. Today, the mind is fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

I appreciate that you are aware about your feelings and approaching guidance from Professionals, you need to work with your self esteem by little more, it's you who can lid your life, Try to divert your mind into positivity and try to balance your emotions, Watch some motivational quotes and videos, Take help from Meditation and Mindfulness also Self-love is very important. Still you find difficult than I suggest you to consult with Psychologist to help you best.

Consult with Psychologist.

Hi there, Do understand your feelings. Criticism are the stepping stones for self realization and self improvement. Take it in a constructive manner. There are many ways of doing a single thing. Probably the way you did was good. From other person's perceptive it could have been done better. May be you can give it a try with a recent incidents and write down the other possibilities and compare it with your one. Also, instead of sulking inside, you could ask the person who passed the comment. This would help you in having a healthy discussion and develop yourself.

Work on your thinking pattern and change the perspective of seeing things.

(1) Love yourself (2) See opportunities of improvement in every criticism (3) Be positive about every critics

Hello I can understand how bad you must be feeling. We can not control what other people will say about us or how they behave with us but we can definitely control our response to it. With the help of therapies, working on your thoughts  you will be able to perceive their comments in such a way which will not make you disturb. You can take my appointment through this app for individual session

journalise your thoughts when you feel angry and lonely

It is indeed painful when feel neglected and accepted.. Yet, it is important for you to handle this irritation and anger which is shown as reaction to. Non-acceptance.. For a more personal discussion and clarity, you can reach me. https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir