Controlling anger. Distract me. thanx.

ANGER, the only emotion which is most difficult to control We can control and hide any other feeling or emotions but to talk about Anger it is not an easy task, each and every individual find it difficult to control it no matter what the place, situation or person is if you really are heated up then you just can't control your anger. And you yourself also might have seen that One could hide or fake his feelings or emotion but if that person is really annoyed or heated up then that person just go all out and express his raging anger. To tell you Anger is one of the Strongest emotion, it's not like other emotions are not strong but even the slightest of annoyance or irritation turns on your anger that is why it is easy to express the anger rather than suppress it. You can find hundreds of ways to control your anger like take a deep breath, count to ten and many more, but what I think all these methods won't work until the main motive is not coming from inside. The thing is we actually don't know about the true reaction to the emotion ANGER, yes we seriously don't know. Think like that when we are extremely HAPPY we spread love, do good things and help others and not only that our aura automatically becomes positive that we ourselves are not aware of what all good deeds we are doing. And when we are ANGRY we spread hatred, coldness, bitterness and end up doing bad things and bad thing consider a hell lot of negative things like using harsh words, hurting emotionally, violence, physical damage, and the list goes on and on to hideous crimes like murder, emotional trap, grudge and many more things, the more the rage of anger is largely our actions would be negative. At one moment we were spreading love and positivity and on the other moment we are abusing and hitting someone, I ask what is the use of all this hatred and anger, what is that soo important thing that you will gain after hitting that person soo hard that he's hospitalized now. At the end of the day would you be proud of being harsh to someone. Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come. In this world of reality, it is easy to find anger in each person but do you dare enough to solely spread smile, to spread love, to spread peace in this world. and.....thinkAssume that you are before someone who is furious at you. No matter whether you are wrong or not, if you don't want to react to that person's anger or reciprocate it. Then try remembering the very first time you met that person. The way he first talked to you. The way you meant everything to him or the way he still means to you. Just remember every possible good thing about that person. That'll lighten your mood, you'll not be yelling/arguing to match his anger. You'll be calm. You'll be silent. You'll be able to think. That's what I used to do when my boyfriend would be angry at me or do something that I'll be hurt by. Because ours used to be silly fights turning ridiculously trival with situation, and to not bring them to terrible endings, I used to choose being calm. And thinking about our good times or about him was the easiest way to choose in order to keep myself calm. That's what we do with our parents, when they are angry, we tend to understand them or convince them instead of getting into fight. Because we know what they are, what value they hold, what walks of life we have walked together. And that anger, is always out of care and protection, so we forget them and never struggle to forgive them. Do you understand, why everything turns so easy.

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