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Hello everyone, I'm in a perplexing situation. My partner and I have been together for years, and we've always been open about our dreams and aspirations. However, I recently stumbled upon a secret diary hidden away, detailing ambitions they've never shared with me.
These dreams are significantly different from what we've discussed in the past, and it's left me wondering why they've been keeping this hidden from me. Should I confront them about this secret diary or try to understand their reasons for keeping it hidden? I'm feeling curious and unsure about how to approach this.
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Hi, Assuming things before talking about with your partner can lead you in the wrong way.You can talk to your partner when both of you are calm . Consult a psychologist for professional guidance
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I understand you are feeling conflicted, but try to empathize with him and consider why he felt the need to hide this from you. Approach your partner with a positive perspective and discuss the issue openly. It's better to have clarity than to make assumptions and react impulsively.
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You should understand ur partners wish and dream n respect his privacy and space.you can also discuss with him with open mind and also accept the fact that his dreams can be different and can also support him.this will help your future relationship to be more strong.you can also go for counseling sessions
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Dr. Santosh D Dasarwar
Counselling Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Seek counseling sessions to explore more about this problem and lean strategies to overcome the problem.
You need an expert psychologist.
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You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance
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Ms. Sanjana Dugad
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Pune
Hi. It's definitely understandable that you would feel betrayed in this situation. But please take a moment to think about why they could have possibly kept this from you. Please reach out to a psychologist to discuss ways to improve interpersonal communication. Once you feel confident, you can try to have a conversation with your partner about this diary as that may lead you to find some peace in this situation
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Reach out to a psychologist, self-reflection
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Dr. Rakhi Anand (PhD)
Psychologist
30 yrs exp
Delhi
Dear User,
Try to approach them with an open and honest conversation about future aspirations. You can try asking them if anything has changed in the recent times, perhaps, new aspirations or old ones feeling irrelevant? Try your best to have an understanding and open attitude towards the discussion. They might have a reason for keeping it hidden and if confronted angrily, they might not talk with honesty.
In case there is still a lack of clarity, you could suggest a session with a psychologist to talk more openly and feel guided in this process. They may consult me also for help.
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi,
It's completely understandable that you're feeling conflicted and curious about this discovery. Before jumping to conclusions or confronting your partner, it might be helpful to first try to understand their reasons for keeping this diary hidden. It's possible that they have fears or insecurities about sharing these dreams with you, or maybe they're still working through them themselves. Communication is key in any relationship, so when you feel ready, it may be worthwhile to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what you discovered and how it made you feel. Express your curiosity and concerns in a non-judgmental way, and try to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Hopefully, through this conversation, you can strengthen your bond and work through any feelings of confusion or uncertainty.
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Ms. Smriti
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15 yrs exp
Bangalore
Try to understand him more, what made him to hide from you with a POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE. Give him more trust that you will support him whatever he wants to achieve in life, don't question or point him for hiding from you.connect to discuss in detail
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