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Confused whether to get back to work
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I'm a Mom of 7 Month old baby girl. I'm planning to get back to work. But I'm too confused. I know I need to be with my child as this is a crucial stage. But also, I'm concerned about my career. I have planned all the substitutes to take care of her. My husband can be with her, as he's working from home. And I, with come back around 5 in the evening. I'm still breastfeeding her and at times I used to Pump & feed her in bottles.
I've started solids too. But I'm worried if she could manage to be without me for 10 - 5pm!
Kindly help me with this!
Thanks!
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You are a mom of a seven month old baby and you want to get back to work. You feel you need to be with your child and at the same time you are concerned about your career. You are worried about your baby and at the same time you feel confident that someone is there to take care of the baby since your husband is working from home.
In order to get clarity about what you want to do consult a psychologist and talk about what is in your mind. You are home by 5 in the evening and you can spend quality time with the baby. You are a caring parent and whatever decision you take do it feeling calm and confident.
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Consult a psychologist
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Contact me for counselling session. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Congratulations on being a new mother!
I understand your situation. This is a personal dilemma that you are facing.
I think you alone can set your priority at the current moment and decide accordingly.
You can go with your intuition and mother's instinct, while seeking a healthy balance between responsibility and aspirations.
Having clarity in this situation now itself may be not be very easy but it will definitely be gratifying and helpful as you begin work- life balancing act.
You can consult for further assistance.
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Hi,
Yes, one can manage both professional & personal life well. & child also can adapt to that.
Take few sessions with psychologist about managing time, daily stress & parenting ways. So that whatever time u r spending with ur child is healthy & qualitative to build emotionally healthy relationship.
Thank You & take care
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Take help from psychologist
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You have practically taken all the steps. Being a mother feeling this is natural. However, you can manage both the professional role and role of a mother. Go ahead with Pride and avoid future guilt of giving up the profession. You are still a proud mother
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Seek professional help if still not able to make decision
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Hi,
It's often a matter of your personal circumstances and choice .
Having a baby changes the way you think about and prioritize your day, and can potentially make you question what you thought you wanted out of your career. Navigating those first few weeks back takes patience, self-care, and boundary setting, both at home and in the office.
You have thought this through and have planned a support system that’s good .
There are countless parents out there right now who’ve felt exactly how you feel and may still be trying to figure out how to do what’s best , be patient with yourself .
Consult a psychologist to help you cope and manage how you feel.
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Consult a psychologist .
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Play and interact with your baby together and run some errands where you're only gone a couple hours to get used to the idea of being away.
Video recordings of yourself could help , spend quality family time when together .
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Connect with psychologist to resolve inner conflicts
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consult connect
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Hi,You can take up the job after a mutual understanding between you and your husband.You can get some additional help if you can since your husband also will be working even though he is at home.
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Seek counseling sessions asap to overcome the issue.
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you can contact me through online appointment for further assistance
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Ms. Hema Sampath
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18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Consult a therapist to overcome this issue a d to get a clarity..
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... What you are experiencing is called separation anxiety. It occurs both on the part of children as well as parents, especially mothers. The science behind it is very straight and based on various developmental stages of a child. You being a young mother is experiencing a dilemma of managing your career along with managing your maternal responsibilities. A child's healthy psycho-emotional development depends greatly upon developing a healthy bonding with their first caregivers (mother's in most cultures). Their future bonding/relationships as an adult is hugely a product of their first bonding relationship with their care givers (mothers). It's not whether your child will survive being separated from you at this age, it's about how it is going to impact her psycho-emotional development. At this age (7 yr old), she would have developed a sense of 'object permanence', i.e., basically realizing that things and people exist even when they are out of their sight. But she might still not be able to understand that concept of time, i.e., basically realizing that parent that is gone might reappear later. So they maybe more upset believing what is gone is gone forever. A healthy brain development is also dependent on healthy childcare in terms for meeting a child's needs, both physical and emotional. But having said that, remember these are not absolutes and an offspring of a human or an animal is strong enough to survive in most non-fatal circumstances. Initial 3 years are very important in terms of healthy psycho-emotional development of a child. After that she is going to become more and more independent and it is also good for them.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Parent Counselling is required.
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