Itâs completely natural to worry about the mortality of loved ones, especially when you deeply care for them. However, when these thoughts become persistent and make you uncomfortable even in moments of peace, they may stem from anticipatory grief or anxiety about loss.
Since these thoughts often appear when you are idle, your mind is likely filling empty spaces with fear-based thinking. This doesnât mean something bad will happenâitâs simply your brain trying to prepare for the unknown.
Next Steps
â Acknowledge But Donât Engage â Instead of resisting the thoughts (which makes them stronger), notice them and label them: âThis is just a fear-based thought, not reality.â âI care about my family, and thatâs why I feel this way.â â Shift Focus to Gratitude â When fear strikes, counter it with appreciation: âIâm so lucky to have them with me today.â Call or text them to share a happy moment instead of worrying about the future. â Stay Engaged at Work â Since these thoughts arise when you are free, try keeping a small list of tasks, puzzles, or learning activities to occupy your mind when thereâs downtime. â Practice Mindfulness & Grounding â If thoughts get overwhelming, try: 5-4-3-2-1 Technique (Identify 5 things you see, 4 you touch, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste) Deep breathing: Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 6
Health Tips
â¡ If these thoughts cause distress daily, consider speaking to a psychologist for guidance on managing anticipatory anxiety. Worrying about loss is a sign of deep loveâchannel it into making beautiful memories instead of letting it steal your peace.