Trust is the act of placing confidence in someone or something else. Trust is necessary for a relationship to thrive. Without it, fear rules.
For a loving relationship to flourish, several aspects need to function optimally. One of the most important aspects is trust. When there are trust issues in a relationship it can create judgment and fear. Over time, suspicions and doubts about the relationship may grow.
If you have trust issues in your relationship, there are usually two places this can emanate from.
One is from an experience you had in a previous relationship that prevents you from trusting.
The second is when something has happened in your current relationship that has stirred mistrust in this relationship.
If your trust issues stem from a previous relationship, it is important to remember that no two relationships are the same. You cannot hold your current partner responsible for something that occurred in the past and something they had nothing to do with.
If your trust issues are due to your current partner creating mistrust in your relationship, this should be addressed head-on. You need to determine if you desire to move past the betrayal and work on your relationship.
If you both desire to work through things, it is worth a shot. If one or both of you is not interested in repairing the relationship, then there is not much you can do with that
Next Steps
Relationship counseling is needed. Contact me for counseling and further assistance.
Health Tips
1) Accept the risk that comes with learning to trust again.
None of us are perfect—we let people down. Therefore, placing your trust in someone is undeniably going to lead to being let down at some point or another. But that doesn’t mean your relationship with that person is or should be over. It’s about setting and communicating the right expectations as well as boundaries.
2) Learn how trust works.
Some people trust people until they have a reason not to—others don’t trust people until that trust is earned. It’s up to you if and when you choose to trust someone—trust doesn’t have to be given out freely; it’s perfectly okay to wait for people to earn it before deciding you can rely on them. Especially if you’re recovering from past betrayal.
3) Take emotional risks.
At some point, you’ve got to just jump in head-first—allow yourself to be vulnerable and risk being let down in order to create healthy relationships again. Choose to trust (whether it’s at the beginning of a relationship or after they’ve earned your trust).
4) Face your fears and other negative feelings built around trust.
Remember, trust issues often stem from betrayal in one’s past. If you aren’t sure why you have trust issues, do some soul-searching. Think about any past experiences that may have caused your trust issues. It’s crucial that you admit to yourself why you’re scared and what you’re scared of, so you can attempt to move on. If you need help doing this, consider working with a counselor.
5) Try and trust again.
If you fail and resort back to distrusting tendencies, try again. Trust again. Keep putting yourself out there.