Are you sure you not seeking a validation? And are you projecting your fear and dicord on your partner? Another question are you really in love Or it's attraction for you? Because if it was love for you, This doubt won't be a question for you.

Its love, love starts with attraction but if its continue for more than 3 -4 months than it will change in to love most of the time. And you are together for 9 yrs.he loves you care you. Don't doubt. Be happy.

Seek counseling sessions immediately. It will help you to rationalize your perception and decision making process.

If you both have worked it well for 9 years you both should be seriously involved hence we can say it's love.though after marriage equation changes at times due to responsibilities and life commitment but the relationship eventually becomes stronger with time. Do not get influenced by any negative emotion try to be little easy on yourself . Attraction is generally physical and short lived love is more of beyond physical looks its the comfort you feel in your partners presence.its unconditional and more accepting of eachother.

You are blessed ..just count your blessings ..every thing does not require reasoning..some things are only to feel.

Hi.. I am wondering why this thought came in your mind. Before answering it, I suggest you to find the source of your thought. But yes, as per my Viewpoint Attraction doesn't last for 9years..it is love.

Hi, Love has multiple meanings. Love has neither been clearly defined. Attraction on the other hand is something temporary and can fade away or incease. Attraction can be on a physical, emotional, sexual or mental level. Book a session on practo to know more. Thanks.

Hi... Attraction doesn't last for 9-10 years so it is certainly a warm bond you both share. May be after marriage things are not feeling the way you envisaged, when you were dating (mostly distant) but that doesn't mean it's not love. Our imagination is more powerful than reality. So when we are imagining love or how we'll feel when we are with someone we love, it's always heightened. But when we actually spend time with that person, it may not feel that intense. So it is always best to not anticipate and rather experience it first hand.