Dyslexia Consultation Centre, Gurgaon Sector 24

In a world of fluid family structures, the resources I have had at my disposal to maintain my marriage and care for my daughter in my parenting tasks has varied as romantic partners entered and exited our family life. I have seen heightened parenting stress and faced the psychological strain created as the demands of my role as a mother exceeded my capacity to handle things. Today I look back and realise that decisions made by me due to relationship transitions has caused nothing but tension in my life and agony for my father and mother all the while increasing my stress to such an extent that I was ready to give up. Dr Singh has been a source of exceptional support for me in what he called my relationship churning and helped me stabilise my entire personality and mental chaos that was making me go craazy. I have managed to move on rather than break up and get back together with my ex husband, and keep the cycle of emotional turmoil ongoing. I am grateful to God to be able to get out of my toxic relationship in time.

I can say I have sat in front of the telephone and agonized because I have been so afraid to pick up the receiver and make a call. I was even afraid to make a call to a colleague working on the same floor as me or even go to the bank for a transaction as I was afraid I would not be able to handle the pressure of dealing with the person and that the individual will be upset with me. It’s very hard for me to take rejection, even over the phone, even from someone I don’t know. If I say I am especially afraid to call people I know because I feel that I will be calling at the wrong time and the other person will be busy and they won’t want to talk with me, it is not an overstatement. I feel rejected even before I make the call. If I do make a call , when I end the call I sit and analyze, and ruminates about what was said, what tone it was said in, and how I was perceived by the other person. My anxiety and racing thoughts concerning the call prove to me that messed up this conversation up, too, just like I always do . Sometimes I get so embarrassed just thinking about the call, because I am so afraid that what will the other person be thinking about me. I know that it is not really true, but I could not get out of this trap. Always conscious that people are looking to me wherever I go, judging me by my clothes and my looks. I have tried to smile, but it is so weak that my lips shiver and I have always felt that in occasions where we have to attend get togethers , I always feel like I am making a fool of myself and my self-consciousness and my anxiety rise to the roof. More than anything else, I don not want anyone to know that I am afraid deep inside me. It has taken me 3 seasons with Mr. Singh, and 1 test and he has already helped me understand what I am going through and why. It has been very helpful that the sessions have been virtual as I don’t think I would have been able to go to a clinic and when I keep my eyes safely away from anyone else’s gaze and pray I can make it home without having to talk to anyone. My life was seven miserable days of anxiety and worry ahead of me to think about it, over and over and over again. 3 Session’s. That is all I did to become fully aware of each of the issues facing me. I will be continuing the therapy, and the positivity I have felt make’s me respect the manner of his working.

I first sought out dr singh with the complaint that everything was all

Right between me and my wife except our sex relations, which occurred

Practically once a year. My wife joined from the next session as it was

unproductive as per sir to have one person trying to solve

the issue, while the other did not know what was going on. I know my

wife loves me and said it also and does not want our marriage to break up.

But how can we live if she says that it feels like a duty to her. My wife will

want to write the rest of this feedback.

It is true what my husband just mentioned. But I am just not so interested in

Intimate relations and after our third child I feel so worn out and even more

less interested than ever. I am so tired by the time I go to bed in the night

That I can’t even think of anything else except sleep. I agreed to the counselling

as I agree it looks unfair to my husband, but what can I do. My mother

has always told me that good husbands do not bother their wife very much

for sex and that we get very little satisfaction specially after the child

Is born and she is right as I get so tired through the day. I started counselling

with my husband just not to disappoint him and make him feel bad. However

my attitude towards good counselling has changed a lot after our talks

with dr singh who was very mature from the start and had very non judgemental and non conflicting views and he has genuinely helped so much that I think we should have entered into counselling therapy much earlier.

Nothing can change the pain that I have experienced in the past. My sessions have helped me to calm down and change my thoughts and feelings. I can now truly say that there are things that happen in life that are tragic and unfair. There are people that come into your life that hurt you. And we may see them as awful. But they are there to serve you. They are there to help us tap into the person we truly are. This whole process where Sir helped me understand that there are there to help you become even greater, they are there to help you become who you were meant to be has made me stronger and even more determined to live my life on my terms.