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What I did is worst thing anyone could do in life. Last year in March I meet a girl through online she is from Thailand. What I did is I lied her - 1) I impersonated my identity by using fake pic and country . Initially we talked once in a while and I did for fun and just for excitement and I thought it would end in few months and nothing will happen 😔. But small small chats we continued . We both didn't had any kind of feelings for each other . But soon lockdown happened and we started texting each other since morning till late night. And eventually we connected emotionally to each other. I really feel love for her .
Now I wanna tell her - but I don't wanna see hurt and didn't want to hurt her and I feel I tell her she will lose her faith from love and trusting people and also I don't wanna lose her. I will be depressed so did she .
Pls help me
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I’m so glad that you want to tell her and be honest
It’s completely understandable that she will be hurt. We can explore how the language of apology can be communicated with her and how to go about with your own feelings
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Please seek help for therapy
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Thats ok
Its good you realize you should not have lied
But again you were not looking for anything serious and didnt have this planned
Now your emotions are true so you tell her exactly how you told here.
Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online
All the best
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Ms. Anikha S J
Clinical Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Bangalore
It's a great realization, and I am glad that you want to make amends. You also care for her feelings. Please make sure you tell her the truth. I know that you may feel guilty and shameful for leading her on. Don't step back, if u can apologise these feelings are easier to deal with. She may resist, may stop talking but that is a risk you must be willing to take if you want a closure to this.
If she comes back, you will be happy and vow to never lie to her again. If she does not return to you understand that in the Adult world failures and falls are part of love and move on. This will be a learning for the rest of your life.
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seek counseling and support with someone you trust.
while speaking the truth to her, speak your intentions I am sure she will understand.
apologize to her without any expectations.
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Don't get aggressive, remember you are dealing with hurt and painful emotions. So is she. At any point you feel you are not able to handle it, get back to her after sometime.
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