Not getting over a girl. This possible.

Its really hard when some one goes through this phase. When anyone is in relationship that person spends lot of energy in that infact we make our life such that our morning starts and night ends with that person. Its obvious that after spending so much energy its really difficult to come out of this. But at the same time you need to analyse that this type of things can't go for so long. And if through any type of pressure or emotion you will continue. It will not last longer but at the same time if it is due to any misunderstanding or any thing which upsets her ,then you should find out. you can talk and make things clear.you can also consult any professional so that he /she can help you. If you need my help you can contact me. Take care.

Hi there :) A relationship is a very deep rooted concept and if it is a romantic one, there are even more layers attached to it. As far as yours is concerned, you both are in your early 20’s. This is a stage where you are out of a protective environment at home and in your college/work areas. Everything is rapidly changing and there are a lot of demands on you. Having emotional outbursts during this age is normal but might get overwhelming for some. I suggest you give space to each other and COMMUNICATE. This will allow for healthy understanding and resolutions. For further assistance, you can reach out to me via this app. Regards, Adishree Counselling Psychologist

I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them. Today, the mind is fixated on somebody else. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having thoughts about one being worthless and hopeless about life in general is also something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

Thankyou for Sharing, I appreciate that you are approaching guidance from Professionals, Remember "Be with some one who is proud to have you"! You need to talk to her openly, Make her Understand that you are looking for serious relationship with her, Also if she is ready for you,than you are also ready to stand in her every problem. If needed take help from psychologist for couple sessions.