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My husband doesn't bother about me
Hello we have been married for 10 years...but from marriage itself my hubby not talking to me as a husband..he just take to me like a third person..not sharing anything personal or not even talking to me with love...the intimacy also lack in my marriage life...only it's happening because we want a baby...now we had a 4 year old.. Even after baby born it's getting very worse... when I asked anything he simply saying I love you and spending time with you..he said most of the husband's are like me only...why love and affection are lacking in my marriage still I am giving everything but getting it back...I don't know what to do..I am feeling alone most days.. please help...his hormone levels are normal only...
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Sometimes personality may not match. Both of you can go for marital counselling
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We can understand your distress, when we feel that efforts are being pursued from one side only, it hurts most
Situation and distress that you have mentioned, how to cope and remain happy is the main question, what must do, there are certain ways as:
*If possible try to convince your partner and explain your side, expectations from your partner's side by giving examples from real life
* Try to keep you busy, engage in healthy activities like your hobbies your interest apart from your kid's routine, ( love yourself first, prioritise yourself)
*Your social networks friends whom you can trust, discuss and not only share your distress, also try to revive your old friendship days, fun, time for friends
* If still you get anxious, irritable, low mood, disturbed sleep, you can consult a Psychiatrist, may be medications not required but some relaxation exercises, problem solving techniques will be planned
* Attention and ignoring is very important principle that must be followed, try to focus on positive vibes that uplift your mood, ignore irrelevant stuff that bothers you
/* If you wish to have some job offer, it is the best way to keep oneself busy, positively motivated
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Your situation is not “normal married life.” Emotional connection is vital, and your loneliness is valid. While we can’t change another person’s emotional style overnight, structured conversations, therapy, and support for yourself can make a real difference. If he refuses help and the neglect continues, a therapist can also help you decide your boundaries and long-term choices
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Hi
It’s understandable that you feel alone and question yourself when you’re giving your best but not receiving love back. His statement that “most husbands are like me” can feel dismissive and invalidating, especially when your emotional needs are real and important.
In situations like this, the problem is not hormones but emotional connection and communication style. Some people are not naturally expressive, but that does not mean your needs are wrong or too much. You deserve affection, sharing, and closeness in marriage. Couples therapy can help open up conversations in a safe space and break this cycle of distance. If he is unwilling, you may need to build clarity on what you want for yourself and how to set boundaries so that loneliness doesn’t keep eroding your well-being.
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Many women feel stuck in similar situations, and it’s natural to feel hurt. In our sessions we can explore what will help you feel more understood and supported. Counselling can give you relief .
I understand how painful it feels when your partner doesn’t care the way you expect. If possible, book a session for yourself first. This will give you a safe space to talk and feel supported. Later, if you wish, we can also explore a joint session with your husband.”
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Dr. Rupali Dhore
Psychiatrist
9 yrs exp
Dhule
I think there is a communication gap between both of you which needs to be solved where you both need to sit and communicate your needs to one another with a goal of solving the issues .
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
Healthy communication and the emotional validation are basics that you seek in the relationship with your husband. The dilemma you are experiencing is understandable.
Ten years is a journey that you both are navigating together. However, you feel the involvement is quite mechanical and distant as you proceed ahead.
When words do not match the actions, true affection isn't experienced as you mentioned.
Establishing shared goals as a couple in several areas, can help both of you in understanding the required contribution towards achieving these goals together.
Couple counseling can help in opening up possibilities. It can allow a fresh perspective shift from the current to the desired state of wellbeing.
As you display patience and persistence in the challenging circumstances, appreciate yourself and believe that you shall achieve the desired success.
You can consult for further professional guidance.
I wish you health, happiness and success.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Dr. K L Tejaswini
Neuropsychiatrist
7 yrs exp
Guntur
Hii..
Couple therapy can help you..consult for therapy
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Dr. Kamal Kishore Verma
Psychiatrist
17 yrs exp
Agra
Consult immediately madam
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Dr. Ritesh Ranjan
Psychiatrist
8 yrs exp
Patna
Meet couple Psychologist
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