I often feel low

I have very low self esteem. All the time i feel insecure. I find all the other people as better than me and I feel like i dont know anything. I have no goals. My only priority is being true and Happy with myself. I feel like an alien in my Surroundings. I feel abondend,neglected by others.Though I have friends for my life and there's nothing I could wish for more in my life,I get disappointed for what ever reasons.How much ever I try being optimistic, I end up being scared and only focus on things I don't have and I don't get.I so truly believe in love but I can't find my love.I'm tired waiting!! I completely agree that I have a wonderful family and friends. I never compare myself to others though. See.. All through this I can't figure out my problem even.
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Ms. Sneha Bhat Bangalore | Counselling Psychologist
Dear Young Lady, on one hand you don't want to compare yourself to others and on other hand find everyone else to be better than you. Now, let me assure you that it's most logical to go with the first choice. 2 people are essentially like Alps & Himalayas. They both are tremendous mountains, similar in many ways but yet different. They both were shaped in different environments and they both though made of similar ingredients have different compositions of those ingredients. It would be unfair to debate or judge one over the other because they are both unique & majestic in their own way. Now, without comparing to anyone else, let's look at the unique you. Let's list everything that are special about you. Note down every incident where you were appreciated in any way by anyone or by yourself. Being happy & true to yourself which is your goal, is the worthiest goal in itself. However are you also neglecting or abandoning your wishes in some way for other's sake hence feeling neglected & abandoned..?? Just the way night follows the day, there will be certain things that doesn't go as you expect in life. However if not for the night, how would you cherish or enjoy the brightness & joy of the next day. Do you know why the night follows the day..?? To make you aware of every single of your fears & insecurities so that you have a chance to face them & overcome them one way or the other. As and when you face your insecurities you become stronger and all the more lovable. You haven't found your love yet because you are invested right now in shaping yourself to be the person even you would fall in love with. If your insecurities continue bothering you, feel free to visit a psychologist who would help you, be your best. Take Care.
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