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I'm saranya I'm in love
But he was using me and leave me now but I'm still love him yennala normal aa erukka mudiyala sethudalamnu thonudhu he was come back in my life I will I do??
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Hello, The First fact is that You feel the pain not because someone is leaving you but because you have invested in the relationship from your genuine self. It is not about the other leaving you or cheating you. But you feel the pain because you did your best from your end. Now this fact also proves that you are genuine. You feel the pain because you invested your emotions, time and effort in the relationship.  If you want to get rid of this pain, you need to note a very important fact, that the pain is not because this person is leaving you or cheating you, but because your mind makes you feel that you have lost all this investment in the relationship. Here it is normal that because you are a genuine person, you would have invested in the same manner even if it was a relationship with anyone else. Isn’t it ? So the truth is that the reason behind your pain is your investment loss and not this person. Don’t you say “How can this person leave me, when i have invested so much. Or Why did this person leave me, when i have put so much in the relationship ?”. You have put your whole self into this person, expecting  the same from the other side. You have shown to the other, who you truly are, at core. And naturally, now when you have a heart break, you feel so vulnerable ,  that this person sees and judges your true self. No one wants to be judged. So whether mistakes were made or things just didn't work out, it hurts to say goodbye to a relationship in which you had invested with your true self. Your mind is stuck up about the investment and not the person that has gone.  It is also true that there are differences in personality styles, likes and dislikes of two different people. But still compatibility is an ability to be compatible to. So the question arises - Is it your inability or your partner's or both ? You need to see for yourself, at least once, whether you truly tried to understand your partner and tried to be compatible. Of course you must have tried all that you could - no doubts about that. We understand that even reading this page, is an attempt from your end to see if something can be done to fix the situation. To your needs, our expert team will help you to know the deeper reasons behind your partners thinking and behaviours that are way different from those of yours. Also we will help you speak out your realistic expectations while backing them with your logics. This will help you in understanding and accepting yourself. Incase you feel that there is a huge deal of hurt which stops you from making this attempt, we will support you on the specific issues as well. All we need is your commitment and we can help you in creating success.. We recommend that you must speak to our expert psychologists and share your situation briefly over the phone. Doing so, you will get to know the complete step by step process on how we will go about solving your specific concern. And then you can take your own time to decide. We assure you with utmost care during this phone talk and at all the times ahead. We assure that utmost confidentiality will be maintained.It is all because of the mind and not because of what has happened. It is the mind which is stuck up and you are clueless of how to deal with it. What has happened has happened and now you need to work on your mind. And if you continue to  be in this pain, you are still giving away your power to the mind which will keep you in the same position. So get ready to rescue yourself now. We recommend that you must speak to our expert psychologists and share your situation briefly over the phone. Doing so, you will get to know the complete step by step process on how we will go about solving your specific concern. And then you can take your own time to decide. We assure you with utmost care during this phone talk and at all the times ahead. We assure that utmost confidentiality will be maintained. You can call us to fix the appointment or get more information as needed by you. We will surely help bring positivity in your life. Subscribe to YOUTUBE CHANNEL – KAMAL KHURANA  (300 PLUS VIDEOS). You can type in Youtube “Dealing with Break-up kamal khurana”. You can also purchase our book “It’s Ok by Kamal Khurana published by Notion Press”. This book is available at Notion Press. Also you can go to our website www.kamalkhurana.com. The book is available at this site. You can also watch our videos at Youtube. The channel name is KAMAL KHURANA. There are 300 plus videos on the channel and it can help you understand PHONE COUNSELLING ALSO AVAILABLE God Bless You. Thanks and Regards, Kamal Khurana  (Psychologist)
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