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Hi Doctor I have been working and living an independent life until I became a mom. My husband has a transferable job so while my new born was 2 months old we had to move to Delhi because of a transfer. I decided to quit my job so that I can give my 100% on my daughter. I thought it wouldn't hurt to be a stay at home Mum but later I realised I cannot be one. It was taking emotional troll on me to just cook, clean and change diapers. Now my daughter is 2.5 year old and we have moved to Mumbai on transfer. We are going to be staying here for next 2-3 years. I want to resume my career and have been applying wherever possible but no luck. Staying at home and dealing with toddlers tantrums all alone as my husband reaches home from work only by 8:30 PM. Our marriage is a happy one and I don't have any issues with my husband but I don't get along with my in-laws and I lost my dad few months before my marriage who was my biggest shoulder of support. Now I don't have anyone to share my feelings
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Hello! Thank you for reaching out. We hear that you have been dealing with a lot of life changes during the past few years. The new role of being a mother, new responsibilities, home-related work and adjusting your previous independent schedule to this new demand can be exhausting and daunting to deal with alone. Additionally, the loss of support can be extremely lonely and can make one feel helpless. Alongside, the toll of shifting constantly over a short time period can be disrupting too. It is okay to not want to be a stay-at-home mom. You are definitely allowed to have your own life as well as be concerned about your daughter’s well-being. In the meanwhile, you have been looking for jobs and exploring avenues for yourself, which is a step in a good direction. While that pans out, it is important to establish plans for how the home affairs will be managed. For example- who will take care of the child, manage food and maintaining a routine, interacting with the child and bonding time. Additionally, it is important to find spaces where you can find emotional comfort in. Involving yourself with existing friends or companion groups, communities (classes/hobbies/activities) or networking can help you to find support for discussing and finding common ground. This would also help you to break from the monotony of handling the child alone. We would recommend you to approach a professional counsellor/mental health practitioner who would be able to guide you through in a safe and non-judgemental manner. It is perfectly okay to seek out professional help from mental health practitioners from organisations or independent set ups. Credits: Parul Pushkarna, Intern at Heart It Out
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This must be a very frustrating situation for you. I'm sure that you love your daughter, but you've also realised that you'd like to be a working mom since being only the housewife takes a toll on your emotional wellbeing. It is good that you have identified that you wish to re-start your career and want to move forward. But, it seems that you don't have the support you need to move forward and feel unheard. I invite you to attend a counselling session with me to explore the issues you're facing and come up with solutions.
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Do you need help? You had mentioned that there is no one to share your feelings. You can have professional listener with whom you can share feelings. Or you can find a good friend. It's upto you. Feeling lonely only is not established disorder. It makes life uncomfortable only.
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Hey there, human! Thank you for sharing your concerns with us. You have already taken the first step on your self-care journey and we are glad you decided to reach out. It is evident that you are dissatisfied in your life as a homemaker and crave a professional life as well. I understand how that can be difficult, especially due to the pandemic and lockdown. Being unable to share your feelings must feel exhausting as well. You may choose to confide in supportive friends or family members. Or, you can consult a therapist who would be a professional listener. They would create a non-judgemental space for you to discuss and even guide you on your next steps. You may book a session with me when you feel ready.
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Hope to hear from you soon. All the best and take care!
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I coukd see few decisions and few events has changed your life 360° Thise all could have affected the clarity and decision making of your current life..
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Consult a psychological Counselor to to get some clarity and understanding about yourself.
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For more details and clarity you can connect with me by using the link given below :- https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Hi I can empathise how you are feeling.self care is essential.. Plz talk to a professional and seek help.. You can talk to me or even chat with me to feel better..
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