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My husband is a retired ex's defense.He is so silly.always yells at me.No any type of interest he shows in lifestyle, family chores.Doesnt respect anyone.pretend he is not listening anyone.Talks nonsense and super negative. His health and weight is reducing.What should we do.
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Check if he is ready for counseling. It’s necessary to find out what is going on with his thoughts. I am an online counselor and an internationally certified NLP practitioner. You can connect with me if required. Do visit my Facebook page to know my work. Happy to help !
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It’s nice of you to reach out for help and I am sure it is a difficult phase for you. It is surely something to worry about, but we can cure. He needs to consult a psychologist. If you would like you can consult me on phone or visit someone locally.
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I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them and thereby help you have clarity about doing what is right in the present situation. I want you to know that once you are capable of making the right decision. Kindly read what follows : Today, the mind is fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.
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Thankyou for Sharing, I appreciate that you are approaching guidance from Professionals. I understand how pressurized you must be feeling with all this. Yes it's tough to deal with this type of personality person. It's better you talk to him openly if needed take help from your maternal family members and talk him, let him understand that you are human being too and every time is yelling not listening is going to affect relationship. If needed take help from marriage counselor or psychologist to help you best.
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Consult with Marriage Counselor or Psychologist if needed.
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Hope you people can still. Avail the hospital Facilities of the defence sector. Please consult a psychological Counselor in the hospital nearby where you can avail your subsidised facility..
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Hello thanks for reaching out here, yes I understand your concern, if it is a sudden change in emotions, then I suggest you to go for thyroid test, as you are telling decrease in weight. Or else take help of physicians. Certain times because of thyroid issue mood swings, disinterest in most of the activities, socialize, feeling negative about others or self are quite common. If he had been since a long time, might be he is looking for emotional support, there could be some disturbance he might experienced. Gradually try to communicate with him, knowing his issue, try to expose him the thing which he used to enjoy earlier, Try to indulge in activities or people that makes him happy and relax. Stay safe and healthy. Take care 🙂
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at the earliest try to meet physician and to rule out any psychological issues take the help of psychologist for assessment and guidance.
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It is really sorry to hear what you’re going through . The most difficult but the most effective way in my opinion is to openly confess to him about your feelings. If that does not work , try to not answer whenever he speaks or yells in a raised tone. In a calm & composed voice try saying that you’ll only accept positive words and a calm tone.
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There may be some underlying frustration inside him which is manifesting in this nature and irritation , him speaking to a close friend or a therapist may allow him to vent it out . If you can get that done , it may be really helpful.
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