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I have a 10 year relationship with my boyfriend but 2 months ago I found that he has cheated on me for 5-6 years. I got very angry and told his parents also. That another was also told to his parents about everything. After that he tried to contact me again and said that he was guilty and I again started to talk to him . But I was informed by another girl that he has also tried to contact her by hiding from me. He is saying that his feelings are divided and he is not able to make a decision. What should I do in this situation because these things are disturbing my emotional stability?? I am afraid of losing him also. I am not able to focus on anything because of this situation. How can I be calm and peaceful in this panic situation??
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As a psychotherapist, it's clear that discovering your boyfriend's infidelity has deeply shaken you. It's completely normal to feel a mix of emotions right now, including hurt, anger, and fear. It's crucial to prioritize your emotional well-being during this difficult time. Surround yourself with supportive people who can offer comfort and understanding. Consider setting clear boundaries with your boyfriend to protect yourself from further emotional harm. Take some time to reflect on what you truly want and need in a relationship. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being above all else. You're not alone, and there is support available to help you navigate through this challenging situation.
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Schedule an appointment to begin exploring underlying factors contributing to your behaviors and developing healthier coping strategies. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and seeking support is a courageous step towards positive change.
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Discovering infidelity in a long-term relationship can be incredibly painful and destabilizing. It's understandable that you're feeling hurt, betrayed, and uncertain about your future with your boyfriend. It's important to prioritize your emotional well-being and consider what is best for you moving forward.
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In this situation, it's essential to take time for self-reflection and determine what you need to feel safe and respected in your relationship. Consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or therapist who can provide perspective and guidance as you navigate through this difficult time. It may be helpful to establish clear boundaries with your boyfriend and communicate your needs and expectations openly and honestly. Ultimately, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and secure.
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Focus on self-care and activities that bring you comfort and peace during this challenging time. Engage in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, to help calm your mind and reduce anxiety. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift and validate your feelings, and don't hesitate to lean on them for support when needed. Remember that your emotional well-being is important, and it's okay to prioritize yourself and your needs. Trust that with time and self-care, you will find clarity and strength to navigate through this situation, whether that involves rebuilding your relationship or moving forward independently. If you're interested in exploring therapy further to address these concerns, I'm here to support you on your journey towards healing and empowerment.
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Hi. I appreciate you talking about your concern.
As per given information, handling separation anxiety involves various techniques to alleviate distress.
Deep breathing exercises can help calm nerves during separation.
Seek support from your friends, loved ones and professional Psychologist can aid in managing and overcoming separation anxiety.
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You can further discuss with Rupali Mohbe (Psychologist) at Practo.
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Creating a predictable routine provides stability and eases anxiety.
Gradual exposure to separations, starting with short periods, builds resilience.
Positive affirmations and self-talk combat negative thoughts
Distract yourself by engaging in your hobbies.
Prioritize adequate sleep
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Important people come and go in the life but if you want to take care of yourself and move on then give yourself space, time and importance to gain clarity and insights about this entire situation and future course of actions.
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Do remember situation always change and feelings always move so just focus on your well-being.
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Engage yourself in your improvement and explore new ways to achieve desired outcome.
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Hi, Loyalty and trust are the foundation of a good relationship no matter how long it is.It is your future.You need to decide what is good for you now and also in future.Consult a psychologist for professional help
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Seek couple counseling sessions asap to get clarity about your decision.
You need an expert Psychologist.
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you can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance
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Being calm in your situation is physically not possible since you don't want to loose him.i can suggest you meet new people and carry out few excercises.
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You need counseling sessions to deal with your issue in a better way. You should book an online appointment with me.
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Book an online appointment with me for further assistance.
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It indeed is difficult to be calm and peaceful in your current panic situation. I do understand the deep hurt you are carrying right now and the emotional confusion that you are in. While remaining completely aware that it is not easy to suffer the emotional consequences of a break up after so many years, I would sincerely suggest you to give your life ahead a re-look and ascertain that you will or will not be able to cope with the repetitions of similar situations in future. Everyone has the right to exercise the available options (just as he is doing probably by keeping his feelings divided). You may have to choose between the pains of a relationship of this kind and a life ahead which is devoid of such pains.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
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18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Consult a psychological Counselor for a therapy immediately personally either online or Offline..
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Ms. Simran Sharma
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1 yrs exp
Kolkata
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. It's totally okay to feel overwhelmed. Try doing simple mindfulness exercises to help with stress. But for more lasting support, consider talking to a therapist. They can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and help you find ways to cope. Mind Sculpt offers therapy that you might find helpful. Taking this step can be a positive move towards feeling better and taking care of yourself.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Bangalore
Cheating always happens by choice..no excuse can justify it.connect with psychologist to discuss in detail.
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