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Emotional disbalance
I'm a 24 years old woman.I had very low self-esteem.I got scared whenever i was introduced to somthng new something challenging.I could never believe in myself.In college I got into relationship with one of my best friends.he( boyfriend cum best friend) is amazing, he has all those characteristics which i wanted in my partner. In one word he is perfect.Problem started when he proposed me. At first i knew i had no feelings for him bt i thought I'll grew feelings after sometime. First 2 year I was convinced that i have feelings may b not as much as he feels for me. Last 1 year we are in kind of no meeting only text rarely call type of communication. Now i feel so disconnected. since a month I'm thinking over n over dt truly, I never loved anybody except my family. Even I think, i don't have any emotional attachment with anyone. is it making me a bad person or horrible friend and girlfriend?don't know how to tell him about it. please help.nothing hurts me now.I feel like emotionally empty
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Beside your description of problem, your mental status examination is required. You should consult a clinical psychologist to get evaluated and be advised accordingly.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Please answer few questions :-
1. Were both of you living in a Residential Institute Campus away from your home towns when this relationship happened?
2. Did you came into a relationship to avoid being alone or not without an emotional support?
3. Did he always had romantic feelings about you or they developed after spending so much time with you?
There is no right or wrong in such situations. We are humans and we act based on our needs and impulses. That relationship was serving some purpose for both of you that's why it developed and it was necessary for both of you to grow. Now, maybe it not serving any purpose for either or both of you so it is falling apart.
We can't make someone, or even ourselves, love the other person. What we can do best is to be honest about our feelings, within ourselves and with the other person about what we can or can't do for the other person in a given scenario.
Judgments and regrets are a human condition which may not be completely avoided. They can only be moderated with honesty and commitment.
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Start taking Counselling Sessions from a Psychologist if you need any further professional help.
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you might be feeling. Having low self esteem really damages a lot of chances for us to feel something for others because usually we detach our feelings from others as we are scared of getting hurt by our loved ones. On the other hand, it is very brave of you to give yourself a chance to feel something by coming into a relationship. But this habit of yours that you developed when you were at the phase of low self-esteem may still be stopping you from feeling connections. There could be many other reasons that might be causing this hesitation in you. You don't have to worry much. Contact a Counsellor or Psychologist now. You can also contact me and I will help you to get through this and in finding your solutions. You got this!
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You can contact me and I will help you to get through this
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Ms. Neeharika
Psychologist
1 yrs exp
Bangalore
Relax yourself.Take deep breath.Prepare yourself to talk to your best friend.As both are matured,you can understand each other.Time heals every thing.Time should come,until then we have to wait.Meanwhile,you can prepare yourself to be yourself and talk to him.
Think positive,think perspective.
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Consult a psychologist for further assistance.
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1.Dont think too much.
2.Plan your daily routine to get clarity about life.
3.Engage yourself to be busy that will make you active,don't forget to care yourself.
4.Spend time with family,nature,pets,etc.
All the best.
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