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Ok,so it has been almost 8 months since she left me.Honestly,our relationship was toxic,as she couldn't fulfill my sexual desires(sex chats, calls etc),she didn't feel pleasure from those and I always misunderstood her for these,used to start fights and breakup and patchup again and again.But the doubt here is I was not happy with her fully but I never wanted to leave her,why I had this kind of thought?and She also loved me truly but how is it possible for her to breakup with me?Like the girl who cared for me so much how could she say me 'I don't see a future with you anymore' I mean yeah I know the toxicity portion but couldn't it be worked out?Also she blocked me ,my friends from everywhere.Just unbelievable.The person who used to care for me,think about me always changed like this.I mean she even replied me when I said her that I haven't moved on,she said it's your problem.And boom,the boy who never cried in his entire life tears came from those eyes too how did the girl become this
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First of all try to find out answers of those questions which are still unsolved.
Because next girls may also feel the same like your ex. So realisation is necessary for you.
If she is still in your contact you can feel sorry to her for anything what you did wrong, And just ask those of your wrong things which she did not like at all.
Don't force her to back in same relationship again, Even though try to prove yourself by changes thought and content. Set your professional goals and run to achieve it. Once you receive some good achievements, It may impress her to back in your life*.
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Kindly consult psychotherapist
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Hi, Consult with a psychologist
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It’s completely understandable that you’re struggling to process this breakup, especially because of the mixed emotions involved. On one hand, you acknowledge that the relationship was toxic, filled with misunderstandings and unmet expectations. On the other hand, despite not being fully happy, you never wanted to leave—this is likely because of emotional dependency rather than true compatibility. When a relationship involves constant cycles of fights, breakups, and patch-ups, it creates a psychological attachment, where even the pain feels familiar and difficult to let go of.
As for her, love alone isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship. She may have deeply cared for you, but after repeated conflicts and emotional exhaustion, she reached a breaking point where she realized that staying together wasn’t healthy for either of you. Blocking you and cutting contact is her way of protecting herself from further pain. Her response—telling you that not moving on is “your problem”—shows that she has emotionally detached, likely as a defense mechanism. People change when they’re hurt enough times. Instead of focusing on how she became this way, try shifting your perspective: this ending, however painful, might be the opportunity you need to heal, reflect, and grow into someone ready for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. If you need help processing this loss, moving on, and breaking unhealthy attachment patterns, therapy can help. If you want to take online therapy sessions, connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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I totally understand your problem.befor move on ,you need to take care of your emotions, Priortise yourself, try to get emotional stability.,need to discuss in details.please come and meet once ,definitely you will find a solution .
regards
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avoid repetition of sharing of your emotions, and maintain your privacy
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Move further and life goes and on, find a new. Partner.
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Cbt, mindfulness, physical exercises
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Sanjana Purdhani
Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Delhi
Itâs incredibly painful when someone who once cared deeply suddenly distances themselves, leaving behind so many unanswered questions. As a therapist, I want to acknowledge that your emotionsâconfusion, disbelief, and even griefâare completely valid. Relationships, especially ones with cycles of breaking up and patching up, can create deep emotional bonds, even when they arenât fulfilling. You might not have been happy, but you were attached.
It sounds like both of you had different needs in the relationship, and that mismatch led to conflict. Sometimes, love isnât enough to sustain a relationship if core needs arenât met. From her side, she may have reached a breaking point where she chose to step away for her emotional well-being, even though she once cared for you. Blocking can sometimes be a way to enforce boundaries and ensure no further emotional entanglement.
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Acknowledge the Loss: Itâs okay to grieve both the relationship and the version of yourself that existed within it. Healing takes time. Reflect, Not Overanalyze: Instead of questioning her actions, ask yourselfâwhat did this relationship teach me about my needs, boundaries, and emotional patterns? Detach from the âWhat Ifsâ: You wondered if it couldâve been worked out, but relationships require mutual effort. If one person has checked out, forcing it would only lead to more pain. Redirect the Focus to You: What fulfills you beyond relationships? Investing in self-growth, hobbies, and personal goals can help shift the perspective.
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â Journal your emotionsâwriting helps untangle thoughts. â Seek closure within yourself rather than from her. â Therapy or counseling (like at Soul Savera) can help navigate this transition and rebuild self-worth. This heartbreak is a chapter, not the whole book. Your emotions are real, but so is your strength to move forward.
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Counselling Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi,
It sounds like youâve been through a challenging and emotional experience, navigating a toxic relationship that ultimately ended after a long struggle. It's common for people to stay in relationships, even when they are unhappy, because of attachment, fear of being alone, or hope for change. You may have held onto the relationship due to the emotional bond you shared, despite its difficulties. Your partnerâs decision to end things, despite her love for you, often stems from a realization that a relationship cannot thrive without mutual satisfaction and compatibility. Itâs possible for someone to care deeply for another yet recognize that their needs or visions for the future are incompatible. Her decision to cut ties and block you may reflect her need to protect herself from further emotional distress. Breakups can provoke strong feelings, and itâs normal to grieve the loss of what you once hadâeven if it was flawed. Healing from this experience may take time, but focusing on self-reflection and personal growth can help you understand these dynamics better and work towards healthier relationships in the future.
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Ms. Smriti
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Bangalore
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