Download FREE Practo app
Get ₹200 HealthCash
Cheating before marriage
A friend of mine married the love of her life last year and they are leading a happy married life..She waited 2 yrs to marry him as there were issues going on in his home due to his fathers sudden demise and mother being stubborn about intercaste marriages..Recently she had to use his phone and then randomly found out that he was searching for matches even when he was in relationship with her.she was devastated to know this as she gave lot of time and trust into the relationship inspite of lot of backlash from her family.He was in relationship, kept saying that he would marry her but still searched for matches but nothing was fruitful and later he married my friend..
She is a matured woman so she understood that he might have done it due to his family situation amd forgave him,they are very happy together and he is such a caring husband. Her concern is she is feeling guilty that sometimes her mind and heart reminds her of this cheating even if she wants to not think of it..pls advise..
Answers (3)
Get your queries answered instantly with Care AI FREE
20000+ health queries resolved in last month
Hi. It's a common issue. The man might have less mature sense than ur friend. Men due to immaturity lacks proper decision making particularly in marriage matter. Until legal marriage nobody is someone's.after marriage I think this behavior has changed. Identity issues is there in this groom. Live life happily together
Next Steps
Psychoanalysis
Health Tips
Freedom
friendship
enjoyable moments
Answered
Flag this answer
1/1 people found this helpful
Was this answer helpful?
YES
NO
Didn't find the answer you are looking for?
Talk to experienced doctor online and get your health questions answered in just 5 minutes.
+105
Hi... glad u decided to connect. I understand we are discussing your very close friends issue. I can imagine that you feel very concerned about her struggle.
The things that she found in her husbands phone, on matters of exploring partners while they were still committed to each other can be disturbing and reflect confusing things.
I believe from what u have shared that they are having a compatible and trust worthy marriage now. However feelings of distrust do pop up from time to time.
Which acc to me, would be best if she takes little steps towards communicating them to her husband and asking him to help her deal with this ambiguity.
After all, she feels she has a right to know what conspired those moves from his end. Whatever comes forth, can be processed and healed from as long as they both are going to be honest about it all with each other.
Answered
Flag this answer
1/1 people found this helpful
Was this answer helpful?
YES
NO
Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
If, we could possess a time machine and we could rewind to our past and undo few events and situations will indeed be great..
Unfortunately or Fortunately, we do not own one.
Still, we all are blessed as human beings to forgive and move on life to lead a happier and cheerful life.
Those past informations which is going to affect our present and future life in any relationship is not useful.
If your friend could meet a professional and talk it out loud, maybe she will be able to forgive and lead a better life..
Health Tips
For more details and clarity you can connect with me by using the link given below :-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
Answered
Flag this answer
1/1 people found this helpful
Was this answer helpful?
YES
NO
Articles you may like
Disclaimer : The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this website.
The question asked on this page is a free question. You can ask a free health question by downloading the Practo app.
Articles you may like
Tell us what's troubling you
Tell us what's troubling you
Disclaimer : The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this website.