Dear human, thank you for sharing and reaching out. I appreciate you for sharing your experience and for the strength that you’ve shown by reaching out for help. I understand how difficult it is to be in your position and how stressful it would feel to fight within yourself for having too many expectations. Having inner conflicts like this can often make it hard to find a solution on your own and in situations like this seeking therapy can be highly beneficial. When your feelings and emotions affect your mental health, they also interfere with your sleep schedule and work life which feels quite alarming. I assure you that your concern is valid and you’ve taken a significant step towards getting better. I recommend you visit a mental health professional for more guidance and emotional support. Meanwhile, try the following: 1. Relaxation –Practices like yoga and meditation can help you battle unrealistic expectations by reducing the constant chatter in your mind. Most people have trouble sleeping because they overthink and experience distress that keeps them awake at night. Mindfulness can also be practiced to bring your focus to the present moment which can prevent having unrealistic expectations.Stretching and breathing exercises before sleeping can relax your body and clear your mind. 2. Realistic expectations or no expectations at all - Try to challenge your current expectations, explore why you expect them, what can be the reasons and try to replace them with realistic one. Set healthy boundaries and have realistic expectations for your partner. This involves working on yourself and  insecurities with regards to love for self discovery with the help of an expert. 4. Journaling -Writing your thoughts and worries can help you vent and it will let you view your expectations with some amount of objectivity. This will remind you that you can only control yourself. When setting an expectation, it can help to first ask yourself whether you actually have any control over the situation or not. For more realistic expectations, try to focus on the areas of your life that you have control over through journaling. 5. Communication is Key-Talking about the way we feel can often be uncomfortable but when we choose to speak to someone who cares for us, we feel relieved and understood. Discussing your relationship needs with your partner, along with what you’re willing to contribute, can help you collaborate to create expectations that work well for everyone involved. Hope this helps :) Take Care!

Dear, Expectations are affecting your relationship and I suggest you without any hesitation you should do marital counseling.

Hello good u knw u need help in handling the situation and seeked it. Expectation is very common when we love someone... We wants that they should there n only for us all the time. But in all the we forget about the freedom of other person. That the point where problem start. I think u need ur partner to be ur friend, buddy n need tim space with her. Just talk to her about this.. And avoid point her that she is wrong or its her fault. Just discuss calm n try explain her ur part n needs.

Hey buddy Glad u could open up regarding this concern. I can understand that you are fully aware of your expectations from your partner are somewhere unreasonable and that is causing u to feel disappointed and hurt in the relationship. There could be numerous reasons for you wanting so much more from her.. which we can deep dive and learn collaboratively. Are there more aspects of your life that don’t serve you well... socially, mentally, professionally ? Sometimes it’s possible that you are wanting her to play a role of not just a partner but unknowingly also of a friend, good career, etc. Communicating to her honestly of your thoughts and feelings , by using “I “ statements and not “you” will help her understand you without feeling defensive. Make a start and share your needs with her, asking her to supprt you as a team.

Consult a traind practitioner for individual as well as marital therapy.

As you know the reason for your Anxiety, it is the acceptance which can the solution for your issue.. Still, you can seek a professional support and can get more clarity and guidance..

Hello, Glad to know that you are seeking help,it sometimes happen in interpersonal relationships that we expect more and knowing that it is not right and the other person would also feel pressured in this situation and it would hamper the growth of the relationship.The positive indicator is that you want to get helped and you have an insight that it is too much for your wife to do. A detailed session would help