Am I depressed? Up how i truly feel.

Hie............ Usually, we start to feel that way when we’re not living the sort of life we really should be, or spending our time in a way that makes us feel happy to be alive. The first thing I’d check is your job: are you doing what you want, or what you somehow got coerced into doing by other people, or settling for because what you really wanted to do seemed out of reach? If you don’t wake up raring to go to work more often than not, then you are probably in the wrong job. The next thing I’d check is your relationships: Are you spending time with generous, thoughtful, caring, committed people, or are your relationships more superficial, competitive and challenging? The Seven Types of Negative People and How They're Affecting Your Health If you are spending too much time with people who ‘take’ and don’t ‘give’ much back, then you should re-evaluate your relationships and try to find a different crowd. You don’t say, but if you have a ‘key’ relationship in your life that’s very draining or challenging, then that also needs to be recognized, acknowledged and worked on, if it’s robbing you of your joie de vivre. Next, I’d check your overall lifestyle and health choices: Are you eating properly? Getting enough sleep? Exercising sufficiently? Or, doing recreational drugs, or spending too much time online? All of these things can seriously compromise your energy levels, motivation and mood. Last, can you answer the question: ‘what’s the point of being alive?’ If you have a good answer, that by itself will start to energize you and motivate you. If you don’t have a good answer, that’s the first place to start, as feeling aimless and purposeless will continue to drag you down internally, even if the external circumstances of your life are amazing. Depression? My own experiences with depression were that everything started to feel sort of "flat". This was many years ago, but I remember a very distinct sense of hopelessness, as though there was no reason for me to take any action because it just didn't matter. I'm not a professional, but if this is the case for you, then you should talk with someone who is. You might be underestimating how profoundly helpful it can be to have someone "objective" on your side helping you out and providing observations and counsel. Start with Something Physical to get out of your head and build energy. When I do feel down, I've never beat it just by thinking. Thinking doesn't solve anything. Instead, you've got to do something physical to wake up your body and get out of your head: go for a walk, the gym, clean the house, go scream somewhere! But seriously - thinking doesn't help . . . not as a first step - you have to "break state" and move. Often not-doing-anything is really because we don't want to think about the stress of our life - it's a defense mechanism to not face the world. (Come to think of it, I did a little podcast on this.) Find a Way to Hold Yourself Accountable If you find that movement helps but then you slip back into your old routine, you need to find a way to hold yourself accountable. The problem is that you don't have enough willpower - or consistent willpower - to get yourself going . . . so obviously relying on your willpower to kick in every day and solve the problem won't do it. I'm a big advocate of using accountability systems - a reward/punishment system involving another person - because they've helped me so much in my own life. So for instance, you might find someone to hold you accountable for "taking a 20 minute walk every day" or whatever you find that gets you out of state. There's a little bit that goes into accountability, and I wrote about similar things in this answer on productivity and this answer about weight loss. So I guess what it boiled down to - in my own experience - is these two questions: 1) Am I clinically depressed? In which case I need to find professional help and do the other things I've talked about in this post to keep me moving and some momentum in my life. 2) Or am I just feeling blah all the time but not really depressed? In which case you can still use some of the things I've talked about. Oh and by the way, there's lots of other helpful stuff - these are just some things that helped me that maybe aren't as obvious. Things like building up a support network of healthy friends (very important!), creating a healthy environment for yourself, and so on. But I hope you find some of this stuff helpful. I know it's hard to get out of this type of funk, but you can do it Thank You All the best

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