Consulted Dr. Mala Murlidhar (PhD) (Clinical Psychologist) for Marriage/ Marital Counselling
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Being a victim of harassment in childhood, I developed ample insecurities that eventually manifested into bigger problems. Dr. Mala helped identify the root cause and has been helping me cope with the issues and get over my fear and rebuild me as an individual wholly. -
I am a victim of #metoo. What happened to me when I was a kid, happened in my neighborhood. A guy my parents entrusted my responsibility with took advantage of the ‘kid’ in me and harassed me. But the ‘kid’ in me was clueless about what was happening although I do remember being repulsive.What happened after the incident was more traumatizing than the incident itself. The boundary of individuality in me slowly erased without my knowledge, etching a sense of fear about every man around me. I developed 2 extremes- either trust someone completely or never trust a person at all. And for any individual, a boundary is extremely important to be able to let the right people into one’s life and keep the ones we don’t want, away- which I apparently did not really have- all thanks to the "gentle"man who abused me. When I did realize what had happened, which was few years down the line, I did briefly mention about it to my mother but she dismissed it immediately not understanding the intensity or impact it would eventually have on me. She probably thought moving on by putting it under the carpet was best then. So quite obviously I couldn’t trust anyone at home and told myself I would need to fight my case myself if such a thing happened in the future again.
It’s extremely important for folks at home to let the kids know- be it a girl or a boy that ‘Hey. I am there for you. I will stand by you and I shall protect you always.Talk to me’, lest the kid might bottle up any ‘wrong’ doing that’s happened to her/him and it manifests in inexplicable ways.
Dr.Mala is helping me get over my fear and helping me in rebuilding the ‘I’ in me as a whole. I tell myself I will not let anyone take advantage of me anywhere- be it at work, be it in family, be it in public places. Where I am a witness of such a wrong doing, I will stand up against it.
Dr. Mala Murlidhar (PhD) replied
You hv been putting a lot of effort for this...keep it up!!