Unable to apply Emotional intelligence.

Hi All, Recently I have been hearing lot about Emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) which is essentially for anyone to manage your own and other emotions and manage them well and went through lot of videos of same, however in reality it looks impossible to apply the knowledge and manage emotions, at times feel like IQ which cannot be changed in most of the times I am presuming that even EQ is also something should get by born largely and will have little scope to improve. I'm not fully confident that I will be able to attain EQ though I'm completely aware of the things but in practicality becoming unconscious and failing to apply and outbursts happening at times, I'm in a kind of helpless situation and blaming myself for this pity situation and situations are completely becoming out of control. Pls help me any suggestions and also howbwe can practice to improve EQ very smoothly and to reach a stage of well managing emotions and to lead a happy and successful life. Thanks!