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Self expression and defence mechanism
I struggle a lot to express myself with men around who make me uncomfortable let it be a boss till family member who mistreats. 2. If anyone abuse me and make me wrong I struggle to stand up for myself. I later worry a lot about it as mental and mention all damage would be very high. When I face such situation my mind goes blank or I avoid speaking to person. How to overcome this strive to stand up for myself and speak up for any sexual, emotional or authoritative harassment's. I have lost self respect and I doubt myself a lot as consequences of this. Low self esteem and low confidence or fear and anxiety about authoritative figure exist subconsciously. I sometimes cannot even judge if others are right or wrong and I take some time to judge by that time either I would have come out of the place or they would have damaged me judging me as weak. What do I do to be normal and come out of this problem.
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There is darkness inside all of us, though mine is more dangerous than most. Still, we all have it—that part of our soul that is irreparably damaged by the very trials and tribulations of life. We are what we are because of it, or perhaps in spite of it. Some use it as a shield to hide behind, others as an excuse to do unconscionable things. But, truly, the darkness is simply a piece of the whole, neither good nor evil unless you make it so. It took a witch, a war, and a voodoo queen to teach me that." Jenna Maclaine,
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The better prepared you are to get a good night’s sleep, the better quality of sleep you’ll have, which leads to a better morning as well. 5. Feel OK saying no Your plate is only so big, and if you overwhelm yourself with everyone else’s personal problems, your anxiety will also worsen. We’ve all heard the adage, “There’s more happiness in giving than receiving.” But nowhere in this sentence does it say you should sit back and let others infringe on your time. Whether you’re driving someone around on errands, picking up their kids from school, or lending an ear about their problems, you’ll have little strength to care for your personal affairs if you spend almost all your energy caring for others. This doesn’t mean you should never help anyone, but know your limitations, and don’t be afraid to say “no” when you need to. 6. Don’t skip meals If anxiety causes nausea, the thought of eating food is as appealing as eating dirt. But skipping meals can make anxiety worse. Your blood sugar drops when you don’t eat, which causes the release of a stress hormone called cortisol. Cortisol can help you perform better under pressure, but it can also make you feel worse if you’re already prone to anxiety. The fact that you need to eat doesn’t justify stuffing just anything in your mouth, so this isn’t an excuse to overindulge in sugar and junk food. Sugar doesn’t cause anxiety, but a sugar rush can cause physical symptoms of anxiety, such as nervousness and shaking. And if you begin to obsess over a reaction to sugar, you could have an out-all panic attack. Incorporate more lean proteins, fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats into your diet. Eat five to six small meals throughout the day, and avoid or limit your intake of sugar and refined carbohydrates. 7. Give yourself an exit strategy Sometimes, anxiety is due to feeling out of control. You can’t always be in the driver seat of your life, but you can take steps to identify your triggers and cope with circumstances that cause anxiety. Does the thought of going into a social situation or meeting new people make you want to jump off a bridge? As everyone at a party engages in exciting conversations, maybe you see yourself holding up the wall and counting down the seconds until you’re put out of your misery. You drove with friends and can’t leave, so you spend the entire night looking like the punchbowl attendant. It’s this fear that makes you decline invitations and sleep through the weekends. But what if you had an exit strategy in place before leaving the house? For example, instead of carpooling with your party animal friends, you could drive yourself. This way, you can leave if your anxiety starts to build and you can’t handle another minute of awkward interactions. The more in control you feel, the less anxiety you’ll have. 8. Live in the moment Other than the words on this page, what are you thinking about right now? Are you worried about a meeting you have next week? Are you stressed about meeting your financial goals? Or maybe you’re obsessing over whether you’ll be a good parent — although you have zero kids and have no plans to conceive in the near future. If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you’ve just uncovered part of the problem. Like many others with anxiety disorders, you have trouble living in the moment. Instead of worrying about today, you’re already thinking about tomorrow’s problems. And depending on the severity of your anxiety, you might be stressing about yesterday’s mistakes. You can’t control the future, and you can’t borrow a time machine and change the past, so here’s a thought: Take each day as it comes. Not to say you can’t be proactive and head off problems. But don’t put too much focus on what has been and what will be that you create anxiety for yourself. Mindfulness and meditation are rooted in living in the moment and have been proven to ease anxiety. Try practicing for a few minutes a day and increase the duration over time. The best part? You can do it anywhere: in bed, at your work desk, or even on the commute home.
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Hi You are unable to express yourself and stand up for yourself. To feel better consult a psychologist and explain about how you feel. Do not worry with counseling sessions you will feel better.
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It seems some past traumatic experiences are playing up in your present.That seems to be coupled with lack of assertiveness. You can gain immensely from CBT, Gestalt and hypnotherapy and behavioral modification.
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start with relaxation techniques be it deep breathing , muscle relaxation. search youtube will be helpful.
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Hypnotherapy will definitely help you. It directly deals with subconscious mind removing all the fear and anxiety from there and building on confidence further. Its total drug-less treatment and gives you guaranteed results.
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Hello dear I can understand what you might be going through. How hard it might have been for you to face so much and bottle up all your fears and feelings when you went through all of this all alone. No need to feel scared to keep your situations out loud. Don't worry, consult a good therapist or a psychologist as soon as possible. You can also contact me and I will try to help you with the problem. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solutions. Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!
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It looks like that it is there in you fir a very long time.. It could be due to various reasons right from your childhood itself.. These self doubts prevents normally to stand up for themselves.. Seek a professional support to overcome this issue.. Consult a psychological counsellor either online or offline..
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Hi.. It seems you have experienced a traumatic past, especially childhood. Was there any authority figure in your childhood that you can relate with your present struggles? If yes, then releasing your pent up childhood struggles is also likely to release your present struggles with self expression. If not, it may have developed over the years due to introversion or lack of social skills. It can be addressed with guidance and counselling.
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Consult a Psychologist. CBT along with Interpersonal Guidance and Counselling is required.
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Our childhood and teenage life has a very strong and long lasting effect and influence on our personality, and how we view ourselves, others and the world around us. What you are sharing is long (duration wise) pattern of not being able to stand up for oneself around men and authoritative figures. When we look at this behavior in isolation you will realise the years of practicing this behavior has made it your go to automatic response. You will realise that our parents and environment while growing up has taught us this behavior. Especially in your case - what you learnt as a child through personal experiences of how to speak to men, of things you can and cannot say, how to interact with them. As girls we weren't really taught to stand up to men or authoritative  figures, My mother had the same problem. We were taught to just swallow our pain and pride and move on regardless of what the other person has done or said.
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In your case, this is what you will have to work on - You will have to understand where this behavior roots from for you. because it is your perception that we need to target. what were you taught and what do you think it means when you stand up for yourself. Additionally,  you need to define your boundaries with people (men in your case) and create a plan or template of how to respectfully and assertively respond to them in those situations that you find difficult. You can also create a hierarchy of easy to difficult situations that you can practice to eventually teach yourself more assertive ways of responding and interacting with authoritative figures.
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Practice relaxation breathing exercises (box breathing, check it out on YouTube) especially when you are in those situations so that you are able to keep your mind and body calm enough to think clearly. Hope this helps! Warm regards.
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