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Regret over past life

I came to Delhi to prepare for UPSC exam after quiting my job where I worked for about 3 years. Initially I was doing OK attending classes, doing some basic study but after about 3-4 months things began to hit me. The atmosphere of coaching centres with young students & many of them already in relationships made me realise what I was missing over my last 7 years (including my college). Gradually I began to feel an emptiness which I never experienced during my college or working days . Now this emptiness is shielding my mind from studying . I even got laid to get rid of this frustration. It simmered down a bit but again came back strongly. Now half of the time I'm thinking how I even failed to even date a girl . I'm too ashamed to talk about about this to my parents , who are already burdened with the fact of me failing to qualify this year prelims ( they have been very supportive). Is this some sort of illusion in my mind to escape studying or do I need to consult a doc for real ?
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Dr. Sugandha Gupta Delhi | Psychiatrist
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Hello, fascination with opposite gender is quite common and rather a norm and a part of life development at your age. So, then nothing about the content of thought is abnormal. However if the ideas begin to impinge upon other areas of functioning and causes distress to you, help should be sought.
I completely understand the distress and turmoil that would be going in with you as part of leaving a job and trying to get through civil services. However please try and relax, and then only it would be possible for you to study as well as perform to best of tour ability. This brief article would help you

https://www.practo.com/healthfeed/5-ways-to-battle-stress-24710/post

Kindly go through this to help in stress management.

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Please understand and see such thoughts as part of normal life. however if distress and impact on overall functioning is significant please seek help from a psychiatrist or a psychologist.
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practice stress management to equip yourself best to deal with such scenario. Hope this helps you.

Best wishes and luck for tour health, future and career.

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Ms. Hema Sampath Bangalore | Clinical Psychologist
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Obsolutely, it's an illusion.  Thinking and believing that the outside is actually great and I  missed many things .
As we only normal human beings we can achieve only certain aspects of life according  to your potential and greatly to your belief and goal.
In this introspect what u actually aspire-: Relationships OR Your Goals?!
Which do you want right now in this span of your life at this time constraint scenario ???
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I would like, even to suggest you to meet a Psychologist and have experience end more clarity and lead a successful life.
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Dr. Mohit Shah Mumbai | Psychiatrist
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What you are feeling may be normal, decide what you want in life, if you feel upsc is not working out, start working again and look for a match and get married, if you are confused discuss it with counsellor who will be able to guide you better
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