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Ours was a long distance relationship of 9 yrs after that we got married, during the courtship i was aware of his nature that he is a bit insensitive when things come to me,but slowly he changed himself by showing more care,love and respect.
After marriage care,love and respect were there but his insensitive nature towards me continued the same exclusively when I am in a medical situation, like three instances i would like to share.
1)When i was about to deliver our first baby,he was out of station and he didn't even bothered to call me and know my whereabouts after he took bus to reach me.
2)When i was pregnant with 2nd baby there was small quarrel between us and he didn't bothered to ask for food till evening,just asked only once.
3)When i aborted the 2nd baby due to missed abortion,my mom came to me to help me ,and he is expecting to do things for him like putting clothes in washing machine etc,when I require proper rest.
I am confused about his insensitive part, rest is ok.Plz help
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Hi,It is okay to feel unhappy when your husband doesn't support you when you need him very much.Becoming parents is a life changing experience.Some people take time to accept .Irrational beliefs like should and must is a common belief that may cause problems.Since your mother is there to help you you should focus on your health.Talk to your husband.
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Hello there
the thing about posting a query is no one can explain in comment, but I will try to help you if you like the reply mark it helpful
1. You already knew about his mannerisms
Ignorance as a Red flag in the beginning of the relationship and accepted it even in marriage the results can be triggering.
Sol. A therapy session focuses on the pattern with which you went into the relationship and how to enable you to lead your own life with happiness without given your inner peace to others as no one can change others. So book a therapy session if you can afford. It will help you cope.
2. You are 30+ and have two kids so you need to evaluate your own journey because his nature is not going to change so whether you want to continue in this sort of relationship where there is insensitivity or you are ready to just walk pass this relationship and start a fresh it might some difficult but then one should always analyze their option
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Hi
You were in a long distance relationship for nine years and you knew about his insensitive nature. After marriage you have realised that there is a certain aspect of him you do not like which is his insensitive nature. You feel he does not bother about whether you have eaten well and he does not bother to ensure that you need sufficient amount of rest. You feel he is not sharing equal responsibility of doing house work. He also did not bother to enquire if you were okay when you were about to deliver your first baby.
You are confused about his insensitive nature and you are okay with him otherwise. To feel better consult a psychologist and explain about his insensitive nature. If possible you can talk to him about his insensitive nature. If you are not able talk to him about his insensitive nature you can seek professional help from a psychologist. A psychologist will guide you on how you can handle the situation in a way that it does not affect your well-being. It is important for you to take care of yourself and manage your stress levels.
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Hello mam
I read your problem I understand your problem mam fist you think what do you want do you want live in this marriage or separation. And please describe more details. You need a psychologist who will actually help you & you need counselling sessions you can contact me.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
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13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi.... Please consult a Psychologist for Interpersonal Relationship Counselling for yourself and Couple Therapy/Marital Counselling for both of you if you both are willing.
In your above description, I wish to ask one thing. How is your relationship with your in-laws, especially your mother-in-law (MIL)? Typically in Indian set up MIL is the primary stakeholder in such scenarios. If she is not in favour, these processes are likely to become more complex and difficult for the young mother. Men typically in our society have low aptitude in dealing with such matters and they either imitate a behaviour that they have learnt or work under the guidance of someone who they believe is better experienced. In some cases, men may also believe that they don't have much role to play in this process and their presence/contribution is miniscule, so they choose to not get into it much. In your case there is also a possibility that you are suffering from depression caused by abortion.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi..
I understand you are struggling within regarding your relationship with your husband. It seems like you are carrying past baggages, you need help to release all to see new perspective towards your relationship and you.
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Ms. Manasi Tambe
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2 yrs exp
Pune
Hi,
I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
We will have to talk about this in detail in a counseling session.
I'd recommend you to book appointment on practo for the same.
Thanks and take care.
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