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Regarding 4y 8m old boy
I am 28 weeks pregnant with my second child and have a 4y 8m old boy at home.
is it normal if he wants me to dress in a certain way? like he wants me to wear a certain dress, keep my hair in a certain way...he gets very happy if I do that.
he is very overwhelmed with the lockdown and lack of outings. he has no friends of his age because I am at my parents place, and they are busy with their own priorities and my delivery. and due to covid, outings have also stopped.. because of all this, he is always with me, and very rarely with grandparents.
kindly suggest if I should ignore it or do anything about it..
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Don't worry your child is normal he needs psychological counseling services time to time with parents for the proper personality development you can contact me for this on practo website thank you
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This has been an especially tough time for people from all walks of life--even children. Children thrive on socialisation and he isn't able to get those needs met due to the current pandemic. It's okay if he's asking you to dress a certain way, I wouldn't really worry about it unless he gets extremely upset if you don't do as he says.
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Mam , Hope you fine and healthy
I read your query .
All things is obviously not abnormal at present what your little son adore and makes you feel so protective and his way of behaving is attached with you more .
He likes to be more with you than anybody .
I can understand your fear of question
after delivery , its difficult to your little son to be you .
This affects his psychological health by DEPENDENT PERSONALITY DISORDER,
or after your second delivery
Your elder kid may....... feel less prioritize for him
So better consult with us for parenting guidance and counselling
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it may lead the kid to hve dependent personality disorder, so you have to get a parenting guidance from expertise .
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you can sort out timings , are few minutes regularly away from your little son , so he don't get feel less prioritize after your second .delivery
https://www.facebook.com/shalinipsychologist/
you can contact us through shalini Psychology Care, coimbatore.
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Hello,it's absolutely fine if the child wants to stay with his mom,he is at his grand parents place where from what I understood he does not stay always so maybe he finds comforting staying near you.
That part of your question where you are discussing dressing up needs more elaborate explaination..it's okay if he likes you being dressed up in a certain way kids love to see their moms looking pretty he is too young to be said and explained anything,it's pandemic time kids cannot go out see and meet new people so the child's overall learning is getting hindered.as everyone around is busy he has his way of exploring his time,please be available to him all he needs is you.
Above all you are expecting a baby which itself involves lot of psychological and physical issues so stay positive your child is coping as everyone around.
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ou as a mother needs to have immense patience,you can also provide him few things which will keep him involve for sometime like new coloring books,clay or any game he enjoys indoors.
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Hello,
Glad to know that you are seeking help,children have their own imagination world and for a 4 year old it is too early to comment on anything.You have very nicely conceptualised the situation around you and that he spends most of the time with you so he can ask/tell anything to you without hesitation.Dont worry nothing is normal or abnormal unless there are maladaptive behaviours or socially unacceptable or disruptive behaviours.
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Hi , since he is seeing you as your primary care giver , he may be anxious to ensure you do well. It’s the coping mechanism of one self . Each have their own style . Your son may have developed this keeping the current situation , where you are the only one he is interacting with. Please ensure you engage him in task where your involvement is less and he can manage it Independently.small talk , like keeping his book shelve , color in GBM, playdoh play. We can discuss more in details if you wish to know about parenting style and how you can empower your child . Instead him becoming clingy or to dependent on you. As with the new born, your responsibilities will increase .
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Hi thanks for reaching out . As you pointed out correctly that situation is very overwhelming for everyone . From your narrative it was not clear that if he want you to dress up in certain way in general or to play . Both are ok lot of change is happening so may be that is comforting for him . Kid like it pretend play for that also if he is asking you to dress up that’s also ok . If anything else is bothering you please feel free to contact me for video consultation via Practo will happy to explore more . Thanks and take care
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