Prostate Enlargement. Life back again?

I am suffering from.enlargement of prostate it occured 4 years ago while i came in contact from jaundice which affected my spinal cord and it resulted in enlargement of prostate. I am.nt able to hold my urine for more than 2-3 minutes. If i hold gas passes. I didnt had normal bowel mivement since last 4 years. i consulted many doctors. From lasty 1 year i m consulting reputated doc of Ambani Hospital Mumbai he is a urologist. last month he did cystoscopy to find out exact reason and said medicine will work no need for surgery. But after taking prescribed medicines from more than 1 year i m not seeing any gud result. Please any one can help me. My family is forcing me to get married but it also affectes my sexual life it lead to ED which i havent told to my family. i just wanr to knw can i able to get my life back again ? please help