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I had breakup before 11 years due to his behaviour change like drugs and alcohol.i got arranged marriage before 11 years.i got two kids.now I am depressed that I left him so something will happen to me.please help me
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Thank you for sharing your feelings. It sounds like you are carrying a lot of emotional burden and guilt from the past.
Aapne jo decision liya tha, wo us waqt ki situation ke hisaab se liya tha—jab behaviour change (drugs, alcohol) tha, tab apni safety aur future ko priority dena bilkul sahi tha.
Ab jo aap feel kar rahi hain—jaise dar ki “kuch bura ho jayega”—ye aksar guilt aur anxiety ki wajah se hota hai, reality nahi hoti. Aapne koi galat kaam nahi kiya hai.
Abhi focus aapke present par hona chahiye—apki family, apke kids, aur apki mental health.
Agar ye thoughts baar-baar aa rahe hain ya distress zyada hai, to kisi counsellor ya psychologist se baat karna aapko kaafi relief de sakta hai.
You are safe, and things will be okay with the right support.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist
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Reached out for therapies
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Hi, there is a possibility of guilt within you. May be the break up was not completed.
It's not real that you will face something unpleasant because you broke up. There were reasons to do that.
Please connect with a psychologist and discuss everything. They can help you to get better.
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Consultation with me is advised
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Kindly reach out for a session
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It seems to be post traumatic psychological changes leading to depression.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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What you’re feeling sounds like guilt mixed with anxiety, and it can make your mind create thoughts like “something bad will happen to me.” But this isn’t reality, it’s just your brain trying to revisit and make sense of an old emotional memory. You didn’t leave without reason; you chose to step away from unhealthy behavior, which was a strong and protective decision.
Try to gently remind yourself: “I made the best choice I could at that time.” When these thoughts come, don’t fight them, just notice them and bring your focus back to your present life and family. If this feeling keeps coming back, talking to a counselor can really help you release that old guilt and feel lighter.
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Respected ma’am, what you are feeling is coming more from fear and guilt than from reality. You left that relationship because his behavior was unsafe and unstable, and that was a very practical and necessary decision at that time. The thought that “something bad will happen to me because I left him” is not a fact, it is your mind trying to make meaning out of the past and holding on to it emotionally.
Right now your life has moved ahead, you have a family and children, but your mind is still stuck in that old emotional space. We need to slowly work on separating past from present, reducing this guilt, and bringing your focus back to your current life where you actually belong. This is very workable with the right guidance. Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six five.
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
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Decisions like leaving him and thinking about safety was the biggest and rightful decision you have made.
Now, since 11 yrs u have lived with a person and has attached your emotions, thoughts, dreams, expectations with him, hence will be difficult to deal with them on your own.
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Contact me at eight three six eight zero five three seven one zero
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Ms. Farheen Moulana
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
Please reach out for psychological sessions to address the trauma related to your past.
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Ms. Smriti
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18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Connect with psychologist to resolve inner conflict
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Ms. Pooja Bhargava
Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Delhi
What you’re feeling is understandable but your decision was based on protecting yourself from a harmful situation. Try not to blame yourself. It may help to talk this through with a psychologist to process the regret and reduce these fears
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