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Hello! I've started visiting clinical psychologist after having so much stress and problems. Problem are so many whenever i visit her i forgot telling many idk why. Secondly, i am having problems because of relationship my partner says extremely dirty things related intimacy which are unacceptable and unbearable for me like "If you unable to satisfy me after marriage will you make me satisfied by some other girl" and so much more like this. Because of all I've lost confidence. I am unable to enjoy i always have pressure whenever even if he talks about intamacy. I started believing that i'll not able to satisfy him. I've visited my therapist twice but i am unable to tell her these. There are many more which I've told but not the main ones. I can't leave him because i can't live without him and also we've crossed such limits which are unacceptable in family. How can i tell her? Sometimes i feel also can't understand. What helf do i ask. I overthink alot.
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U need therapy..please call me.
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concentrate on urself
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u r too young..keep ur mind & body healthy!!
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Continue with sessions
Clarity will come after few sessions
Also, please write your issues and when you think of and discuss them with your counselor
Relax you are on the right path
All the best :)
Feel free to reach out to me anytime
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Hello,
Wishing you a good health. Since you are already visiting a clinical psychologist, I'd say keep at it. In therapy sessions, it is quite common that people don't open right away about their major problem. And you need not force yourself to talk about it, you can definitely inform your therapist that there are a few things you like to talk about and you don't feel ready to discuss it yet.
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If after few more sessions, you still feel you are unable to talk, try and changing your therapist.
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Please understand that the space you are talking in is a safe space and you will take time to open up.
Please feel free to reach out to me for further assistance.
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Hi, glad you wrote this down. It clearly shows your relationship is toxic. You need to consult a Therapist/Psychologist. You can book an appointment with me. We shall work on your confidence, self esteem and decision making skills. You will be sorted. You are just a teenager. You are still growing. Don't let any relationship or person define you. We are all very dynamic and change is the only constant. We keep improving, becoming better and better unless we loose confidence.
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Consult me for one on one talk amd.stop worrying. Need to work on building your confidence back and give perspective to your current situation.
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Need to work on your confidence, self esteem, decision making skills. Don't be harsh on yourself.. Sometimes situations block your mind. Love blinds you and stereotypes push you to make wrong choices. Take care!
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Hi,
I hope you are keeping well. I think you are in a toxic relationship. You can reach out to your parents or authorities of he is forcing you. You need a support group to handle all this. Approach women's group who can handle this and ask for confidentiality.
Kindly continue with Therapy.
Take Care..
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Hey
Glad u reached out. I can imagine u feel confused and troubled. It must be very stressful for u to be in this space where someone criticises and disrespects u often.
U said u can’t live without him.... which I understand is an impossible idea for u at this point. I wish I could say it’s going to be easy.
It won’t be easy.
At the same i urge u to open up abt ur feelings and thoughts with someone u trust and take up this issue seriously.
U deserve to be treated with respect and love. Right now I get a feeling that u are not able to love urself and are losing all ur confidence becoz of this current relationship.
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I know u wish things worked out for the best becoz U too are very involved. But sometimes things don’t happen the way we want them to.
Communicate what is not ok with u honestly with ur partner. See how he responds. Connect with me or someone u trust for a session. All the best
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First of all I appreciate you because of expressing openly.I found you are depending on him and some adjustment problems. There are some limitations and some natural things we do during sex. We need know how extent your partner crossed limits.
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Consult sex therapist as well as clinical psychologist. Consult me through practo. We will solve your relationship issues.
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Hi , Thanks for reaching out ... good to hear that you are in therapy and working with the therapist . It is totally understandable that talking about intimacy and sex not easy and that to a stranger. Having said so counselling is a space you won’t be judged by your counsellor . Please continue with your therapist when the trust will develop it will be much easier to talk about everything . You have taken the right step that really appreciable give time to the therapy there is no quick fix am sure you will be able to work things through . Thanks and take care.
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Dr. Padam Kanwar Bhati (PhD)
Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi,
You need good counselling support by “professional Counscellor who is practising in relationship counselling.” You will definitely get way to help your self.
Meeting 2-3 time to professional may not give you a quick result, because it's a sensitive issue. Trust your Counscellor tell everything what ever you want to share they will keep it confidential all information, that's is professional ethics do not scared from professional help.
You need proper hand holding and understandings towards relationship. Which can not be possible by writing in this chat.
Now days you will get online support too.
If you contact Wings Within, Bangalore
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Book an appointment for relationship counselling
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Full counselling support .
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Ms. Sradhanjali Dasgupta
Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Kolkata
You can get in contact with me at a reasonable price... I can help you out. Am a Consultant Psychologist.
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Ms. Kajol Birawat
Counselling Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hey! Firstly, thanks for coming out with your concerns. It takes a lot of courage! Taking the first step towards healing through therapy in itself is great. Kudos to you for reaching out :)
I understand how it can be difficult and uncomfortabl to disclose all the information to your therapist/psychologist. However, it will become easier as your relationship with your therapist progresses through the sessions. I would suggest that you bring up the concerns you are facing in your relationship with your therapist whenever you are comfortable, and they can guide you through it. If you are unable to build that rapport with your therapist even after many sessions, please talk to them about it. You can tell them about how you're still uncomfortable about addressing certain things, too. Your psychologist can then guide you on how to take things forward, they will mostly either try and change the strategies and techniques they have been using, or refer you to another clinical psychologist who might be more compatible with your thought processes and preferences.
I would also suggest that whenever certain concerns come up between one session and another, please note it down. Take your notes to the next session, in order to ensure that you dont forget to address any of the concerns you have experienced. More power to you!
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Ms. Ritika Matta
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Hyderabad
You can contact me for an online appointment and we can explore this narrative together
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Ms. Chellam Narendiran
Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Hi,
When you say, problems are so many which one would you like to address on the top priority. Jot down all your concerns and categorize it. Work on the issues which is bothering you the most and let go on the issues which needs less attention.
You need to talk to your counsellor / psychologist openly. Then only they will be able to address your problems and give you the right solutions.
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Dr. Mustafa Mun (PhD)
Clinical Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Mumbai
Keep a writing pad or a small notebook with you in which you write all your points and take it along with you next time you visit the clinical Psychologist thereby you won’t forget the points you wish to discuss.
Secondly do not shy away in sharing the issues with the psychologist, if you will not open up completely about your deepest feelings, they won’t be able to guide you correctly .
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Keep a writing pad at all times with you whenever you are thinking about your issues and take it along with you to the therapist next time
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Be open and share all your feelings as much as possible with the psychologist therapist to help them , help you effectively
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