Hi I doctor my name is poornima I got ma

We understand your worry and it appears quite reasonable. You may require good understanding about child birth and parenting.Please get in touch with a counselor to clear your concerns and to get a good idea to be a wonderful mother!

Please consult a counselor

Please wait till you equip yourself with right understanding about parenting..it is quite enjoyable!

Hi Poornima, I understand your concern. When you become a mother first time, there are many questions and expectations from self. One of which is to be a best mother. Also there is fear related to the same. It's ok. Yes other things also bother and you might feel frustrated. It is understandable.

Do contact me to discuss in detail about how to go through all this and deal with this.

Become aware of how you feel and it's ok.

Hello poornima! I completely understand that handling motherhood is very difficult.At the same time if you wish to discuss in detail. You can definitely contact me.

You can contact me.

Take care of yourself.

Hi Poornima Congrats on becoming a mom! you are experiencing postpartum blues as my colleagues have pointed out but yea lack of emotional support from your spouse has also added to your low feeling... So a little Professional help n family counselling could go a long way.. Hey remember this is only a temporary phase..Life is awesome..embrace it 😊

Thank you for reaching out and expressing yourself. This is postpartum and it's very common with new mothers. You will have mixed feelings for yourself, whether to be happy for being a mother or upset about loosing all the fun and happiness. This is a phase and it won't stay for lifetime.

be mindful about your thoughts and feelings and share it with someone whom you trust. venting out will release your negative feelings and emotions.

consult a psychologist for empowering youself

Thank you for reaching out. Post-partum blues and the challenge of being the primary caregiver for an infant is a challenging role, especially in the initial months. Amidst such times, it is likely that one loses some sense of meaning and happiness as one’s day starts to revolve around the child. Feelings of sadness, frustration, anxiousness, worthlessness and worry, though common in this period, can lead to significant mood disturbances. Again, it is a good step that you’ve reached out to seek guidance.

1. Since entering motherhood, many women tend to leave behind their previous hobbies/activities/jobs that they tended to enjoy. Take time and try to introspect about atleast one thing that you did earlier, and see if you could get just a little time to inculcate it back. Reconnecting with our skills is a good way to improve mood and gain confidence. 2. Give yourself ‘Me Time’: Motherhood, as wonderful as it is, is challenging and taxing too. Try to keep an hour in the day specifically for yourself and your leisure. ‘Me Time’ is important. 3. Talk to a Trusted Friend/Confidante: It is important to confide in a trusted friend and let our feelings be acknowledged.

While it is hoped that the above tips could be of help, do ponder upon planning a session with a Counselor/Therapist. Post-Partum Blues and Stress is real and should there be distress, one may seek help from the mental health professional.

I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them. Today, the mind is fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy. Whenever thoughts of sadness or anxiety loom over the horizon, replace them with thoughts of gratitude and all the blessings you have in your life. Care for yourself as if you would care for your child or your best friend. Pamper yourself with all the love and care you truly deserve. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

Hi, Happiness is subjective and seek within. Every mother is a good experience. They grow with experience. Every experience is a new learning. Enjoy your motherhood with ups and downs. Its quite natural to get irritated. Work on yourself.

Speak to your close friends or family members. Visit psychologist

(1) Learn to enjoy your motherhood (2) Appreciate yourself (3) Learn to grow and enjoy with your child

Hello poornima. Great to know that u r blessed with a child. Try to grab each moment of happiness even a small act of your child may add enormous happiness in to ur life. It seems that u are not getting satisfaction from your marrital life. Try to improve the bonding of that relationship that will definetly enhance your confidence in general and you would overcome ur anxiety related to your motherhood.

Take on- line professional help.Few sessions would help you to have good understanding about different aspects of life.

Spend time with your child and also explore your potentials.

Hi dear thanks for your approach to us, congratulations welcome to motherhood. Yes I understand it is not that easy to handle the role of mother, most of the women will be having the expectations, during Post natal period women requires more emotional support, body settling down with huge changes of harmones, which causes fluctuations in feeling and perception. Tiny things could make difficult to deal with the same. Your statement indicates your husband is not much supportive, that could be adding up to stress.

you can enjoy the motherhood, observe child's play, you can do small exercise, if possible try to focus on hobbies prior to pregnancy that you used to enjoy, work on the expectations, does it really makes sense, understand the responsibilities of mother ,plan and prioritise according to your routine. Understand every mother feels that they want to be the best, they are best in their own sense. try to be kind, calm and positive 🙂.

you can approach me for further clarity and guidance. take care.

I agree with you that handling motherhood and managing household chores is difficult.. And that too if not with proper physical support and ofcourse emotional support.. I think, you have been caught up with too much of responsibilities and not being being Acknowledged... For a detailed discussion and understanding, you can connect with me for a personal online consultation through this app.. https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir

Hello Poornima Thank you so much for sharing your concerns. It is natural for new mothers go through such thoughts post childbirth and it does settles down with time. At this point, what you need to do is give yourself little time and explore what you want and what are your likes. Besides, you can try and communicate with your husband about his participation in helping you out. Beyond this if you have further challenges, you can always contact a mental health profession in person. Just remember, this too shall pass. Take care!

Congratulations on your new phase in life! Being a first time mom comes with a lot of challenges and stress, based on what you are doing right or wrong. It's important to remember that is common to have these doubts. Even though there are books and articles on how to cope, each individual is unique and face the struggle in their own way. Postpartum depression and feeling anxious at this time can be addressed in therapy. It is essential to have a strong support system to help navigate through this. Working on the relationship between the couple can be done in therapy as well. Many couples go through a difficult time in this phase either cause one is feeling left out or not having the spouse attention. Rekindling you relationship would help.

Visit a counsellor. can start with individual therapy and slowly progress into couple therapy.

Have some time in the day to focus on yourself during the day. A healthy mother help raise a healthy baby. you can reach out to a counsellor to address the concerns in more details. would be good to bring your husband into a few of the sessions as each one can express their perspective on how things are going.