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Hi , I am a divorcee.I am currently living in abroad doing masters degree. I made a decision to select my future life partner by myself this time.At the same time I found a person with good compatibility. I wish to marry him in future .But i want to work in abroad which was my dream but since my partner is currently working as an employee managing everything in the relatives firm IT and its various branches new start up companies.soon he is going to get share in that company and get ownership. And he is looking after poultry farming back in his hometown as well.So he also can't shift to abroad. He is only son living with his mom .dad passed away..my parents dream is they want me to settle in abroad .my father is also working in abroad my mom lives with him .my sister married and settled in abroad as well.I am waiting for my studies to complete to tell about my partner to my family and wish to marry him ..I am very much stressed out thinking how to satisfy my parents and go to india
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Hai madam, please read very carefully what I am going to say. As legal separation happened in your life , it would have made a negative impact in your thinking process and your parents thinking process as well.1. Please meet a therapist and get clarity. 2. The need of understanding a relationship or a life parter is must now. 3. What to expect from your life partner? and how to progress in career for both your lives really matter now. 4.Make sure this relationship will prosper both of you. 5. Fear and insecurities should be removed before getting to a new relationship, because negatives things from past will confuse our family members also.
All your future will porsper madam. All the very best.
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Meet a clincial psychologist who deals with relationships and premarital counselling and who is a expert in the field. it's never too late to get a professional help. The therapist must understand your culture, norms and rules of marriage pertaining to your living area.
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All relationship should progress in positive way, is mine processing?
we live in a society ,so do our partner what is his approach towards this ?? because he will be your better in your future.
so many things madam , we need to consider.
pre marital counselling and individual counselling is need.
Again all the very best for your future.. I wish all happiness and prosperous in your future.
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I understand you have been through some difficult time. Trust me we will face this together. Firstly you need to talk with your parents once you completed your studies. Tell them about all your concerns in a clear way. Let them understand your life in a very clear perspective.after that Let you partner talk with your parents . Hopefully they will understand nd respect your decision. If you need my help don't hesitate kindly ping me, nine three four four six eight eight four two one.
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we ll face this together. happy healing:)
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I read your problem firstly u take a deep breath slowly slowly and then you talk with confidence with your parents talk about your decision and talk about your goal
What is merit or demerit or your achievement about your decision. After that your parent understand you and your decision and try will respect your decision. Another suggestion for contact me .
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Hi,You have to decide what you want in life.Without taking the action you will not come to know the result.Talk to your parents about your decision as soon as possible so that you can be stress free.
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Hello there
Thanks for writing in your query. You have married a person and then divorced. So you know how it works, right? The question is what do you want, your priority. If it is to settle abroad then choose it, if it's return to the guy who is compatible, choose that. What is it that you want? Sit with yourself and ask.
Also, it's too much if and but in your issue. This will confuse you. If you need to talk then ping me at double eight two two nine seven nine four three.
I wish you well 👍
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Ms. Hema Sampath
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Bangalore
Consult a psychological Counselor to understand yourself better and to get a clarity personally...
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... You are facing a typical 'Approach—Avoidance Conflict'. You want to be with this person but marrying him will bring down your parents desire of you settling abroad. Life never offers absolute choices. There are always something to choose and other to let go. You can't have both at this moment so you have to go with what you want more. There are no sureties in life. Any choice may end up being wrong. So in such a situation we must choose what we love most. At least we won't regret not doing what we really wanted.
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Ms. Smriti
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15 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi.decision should come from within write pros and cons of it.try to figure out what works well for you.
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