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Feeling Stupid
I feel like I am stupid . I feel I don't know how to speak and convey myself. I am so afraid everyone will make fun of what I say. I wish to make friends but I fear I will be judged. I have very few friends even though I love to socialize, have fun and laugh . I feel like I am socially stupid. How to overcome this fear?
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Everyone has some unique quality which differentiates it from others what requires is to identify this quality and whenever you will do this you will not feel any type of fear and after that you will start to communicate with everyone without any type of hesitation.and this can become only by changing your approach and attitude.any professional can help you in this.if you need my help you can contact me.
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Hi,
Sometimes our life experiences make us believe things like these. I would recommend you to take therapy sessions, which would help you in dealing with the underlying issues that have caused this fear of judgement and help you with expressing yourself.
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Ms. Kajol Birawat
Counselling Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi! I understand how this can be a very difficult time for you. However, what you're going through can be addressed. It is essential that having these concerns and issues doesn't make you stupid. There has to be some reason or experience that has caused you to feel this way, and the same must be explored. This can be done in a therapeutic setting. Therapy is extremely important in order to understand the root causes of what you're feeling. Meanwhile, you can also consider activities like journaling. Try and write down what you feel when you feel stressed or anxious. When you do so for many days, it can help you understand what you're going through, and might also assist in highlighting the activities that trigger such feelings in you.
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Please reach out to me, and we can schedule a session for you! I know that therapy can seem like a difficult step, but we can work through this together :)
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Ms. Radha K
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
FEAR also stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Each of us is a work in progress. Unless you put yourself out there you'll never know how it will turn out to be. As you take baby steps towards engaging with the world, you will learn things about yourself and others that will help you navigate your way forward. Typically it is the things we tell ourselves during such situations that have a major impact on how we behave/act. Behind the thought that everybody will judge me might be the belief that if everybody don't judge me favorably, this could only mean that I'm a total failure or a loser. If certain people don't approve of me, this could only mean that something is wrong with me. Consider the beliefs behind your thoughts that you typically experience in such situations. Examine the validity of these beliefs. Also, consider the people whose approval truly matter to you. Very often people who do make unfavorable judgments are those who don't really know us well enough. And based on an imaginary fear of probable unfavorable judgments by these people, we hesitate to do things that bring joy and fulfillment to our lives. For the sake of feeling safe and avoiding the risk of being judged, would you pay the price of never venturing out of your comfort zone and missing out on joys and victories that you have never explored?
Ask yourself - what is the worst that could happen? Trust yourself to have the strength to deal with unexpected outcomes and still do your best.
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Dr. Rakhi Anand (PhD)
Psychologist
30 yrs exp
Delhi
Hello Practo user,
Fear of negative evaluation and being judged can hinder healthy social relationships.
Early Childhood and past negative experience can be one of the factors contributing to the fear of being negatively evaluated in social situations.
You could consult a clinical psychologist who would help you, explore the reasons associated fear of being judged and not being able to interact properly with others as well as work on your skills/abilities which might help you develop healthy relationships.
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Socialise with existing friends, join any activity or group which will enable you to interact with new people online/offline and maintaining a journal of negative thoughts which can be changed into positive and realistic thoughts.
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Ms. Chellam Narendiran
Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Hi,
Its quite natural to feel uncomfortable to connect socially. The probable reason for your apprehension could be nonacceptance of self, unable to take criticisms and fear of making mistakes. Everybody face such feelings at some point of time. The only difference that makes is making an effort to overcome such unproductive thoughts. The good thing is that you can always develop these skills through proper training and practice.
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Take help of your faculties and friends to overcome this fear.
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(1) Practice self confidence (2) Speak with your friends openly (3) Never worry about the results (4) Mark your progress (5) Be happy with yourself
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Ms. Ritika Matta
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Hyderabad
You can contact me for an online appointment and we can explore this narrative together
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It looks like that the Fear of judgement ,Fear of Failure or Rejection is bothering you..
Only if you are comfortable with yourself and about yourself, in the way you look, dress speak etc., you can feel confident and will feel like socialising with others.
And ,I sense that it is there for a long time now..
I appreciate that finally you are able to look for some guidance to overcome this issue..
For more details you can connect with me by using the link given below:-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Ms. Divya Malhotra
Counselling Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Delhi
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This is could be due to stress or situation. And can be a part of low confidence I.e social anxiety.
For better diagnosis I want you to consult a psychologist so that he or she can help you by assessing your stressors in detail.
Free free to contact me or any other psychologist.
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Dr. Prem Kumar
Counselling Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Hyderabad
I wish you to accept your nature first and be happy with your uniqueness. Then believe that everything can be attained through regular undeviated and persistent efforts.
Handling fear of someone's judgement on you.
Before someone judge you, first judge yourself and make a solid statement about you. Then believe that every other person's judgement logically invalid. You yourself is the only right person to judge because you are the keen observer of your emotions and abilities since birth.
Question yourself what I loose and what I gain if I fail in my attempt to socialize with people...
Contemplate what are the ways to make myself happy irrespective situations.
Good Luck
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