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I am single and there is my fitness coach who is 5-6 years older to me and he is coach from one of the online plateforms. He is really nice guy, I really respect him a lot and he is kind of person to whom I look upto.
I am being trained with him since last one year but we met 10 days back face to face, that was a nice meeting, he looks so humble and caring.
after meeting me, he did little bit flirt on text in last week. (he never did the same before meeting me)
but I don't feel the same for him, I mean I like him but not in that way, he is kind of ideal person to me.
and when we had our weekly status update call today, I couldn't talk with him like I used to because I am feeling little down due to those flirt messages, those were okay, nothing bad but still.
He talked on call as always seems it was nothing in his heart, just to tease me.. he did that flirt. how to overcome my weird feeling?
Thanks in advance 😊🙏
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Hi. Hope you're doing well.
It is really good that you have a coach who is genuine and good at his work. And while it is also normal for humans to get attracted or flirt, it is good to acknowledge when it does not feel comfortable.
Having said that, it would be a good idea to politely convey the same to him. This would help him to understand his boundaries and also make you feel better.
It will get rid of the awkwardness you felt and help continuing the previous healthy relationship you had.
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Try doing the above . We can talk about it in detail if you need any help. Take care
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At times, a gut reaction is the first thing you will think and feel in a situation. You should pay attention to this because it might be your mind’s way of protecting you from getting hurt.Gut feelings are real, and they can help you navigate through relationships. You will still need to consider all the evidence to support your gut instinct before making the best decision. But trusting your instincts in relationships of all kinds is the right decision still.
If your gut instinct has proven true for you one time, you should see if this is always the case. It might be, so you may as well keep trusting it!
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Hi,
when their is change in any kind of relationship, it takes time to adjust, understand what is going on and further through rational thinking develop a balance state of mind and ways to handle it.
rationalize a situation what is important to you and stick to it.
If underline core belief about change or relationship is causing you the distress then counselling will help you to develop rational thinking and ability to let go.
Thank you and Take care.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
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You can either forgive him or you can change your trainer if you are finding it difficult..
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... If you feel uneasy with this person after some flirtatious messages, I believe you are either responding to your instinct/gut feeling or prior bad experiences which may or may not be stemming from a rational source. You need to figure out what is it that you really liked about this person and why do you now feel so uneasy with some of his messages. Sometimes we develop a tendency of putting the other person on a pedestal to be able to be liked or respected. We are all normal human beings with needs, wants, affection, and behaviours. You need to figure out why you think he is such a nice person at one point and becoming so concerned about his mild flirtations on the other. He might have just liked you or intended to have something more. Is it not normal? What if you would have liked him and did something which could be construed as flirting. Please figure out your own feelings first and than have an open conversation with this person about it. Trusting one's own instincts/ gut feeling is one thing, and misreading someone else's behaviours without considering their side is another.
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Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
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21 yrs exp
Thane
I feel that being a woman, you do have extra sensing power when it comes to such advances. The feeling may not be weird but uncomfortable to this new change.Also the fact that in the year you have never felt like this, there is merit in feeling so ( post face meeting).
You can stick to professional talk on your fitness. Can be cordial, respectful as earlier but assertively bring back the topic to your fitness when it is wavering elsewhere.
This will set the record of you only being interested in a coach trainer relation and nothing beyond.
Hope this helps. Can connect if requiring further assistance.
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Hi,
It seems to be a natural feeling as a girl we have lots of pre perception towards the person or behaviour, it may be that person doesn’t fit on those requirements which u made on your mind , or it can be your past experience with male friends, whatever the reason behind it , just try to acknowledge your feelings , and behave ( talk ) normal with your coach , or if it is bothering too much you can directly tel him about your feeling because of flirt msg, he will reply accordingly. Or if you are still have stress you can talk to a professional psychologist
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