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Different mentality
If i do anything My wife says its wring for example
My wife is washing dishes,
Case 1- if i wait until she finishes and then i want to wash my plate, she scolds like can't you give to me I'll wash.
Case 2- if i give my plate to her to wash, then also she scolds, can't you wash your plate.
What kind of mentality this is called as? How to deal with such kind of people?
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This is what psychologist called as 'double bind'.
The reason for this lies somewhere else not in the matter that looks straightforward.
An example to help you understand, 'A mother asking her child to play outside and not to get the clothes dirty'. The situation seems contradictory.
There is something going on in mind which might not even related to you.
Hold her hands and ask her whether she is having any problem (be cautious in choosing your words). I hope it helps in getting the root cause. Else you should consult a counselling psychologist (relationship management, family counsellor).
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Consult a counselling psychologist or family therapist.
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Watch your actions. Be polite.
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You are concerned about the way your wife is behaving. You are wondering about what is in her mind and what is causing her to behave in a certain way.
To feel better consult a psychologist and explain about your wife’s behaviour and her thought process. A psychologist will help you cope with the situation and feel calm. I understand that you might be feeling helpless and it is important for you to feel calm.
Do not worry counselling sessions will help you.
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Consult a psychologist
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Contact me for counselling session. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Hi, Communication is very important.Talk to her about it calmly and try to understand what she wants.Counselling sessions will help you to learn life skills.
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Plz connect with psychologist to resolve inner conflicts
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counseling
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consult
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Hi, with one symptom we can label with any personality, i request you also not label with any mentality, for dealing you just remain non-judgmental and enjoy life with more playfulness and more awareness.
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Ms. Muthulakshmi
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Chennai
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I can understand that you are worried about your wife's behaviour. I am suggesting you to speak with your wife and try to find out the causes of her behaviour. Please consult with a Psychologist to discuss more about the issue.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Perhaps she is expecting you to take more interest in household chores or there might be something else troubling her at the back of her mind that is coming out in this kind of scolding behaviour. She is probably imitating a parenting figure subconsciously in an adverse scenario. You need to have an open conversation with her on her marital expectations from you and how she is doing at a personal level. We all have ways to take out our frustration in one or the other form. Typically a close relationship do becomes an easy target unknowingly because we feel comfortable being ourselves with them. Try to provide an understanding ear to her concerns and may things will work out well for both of you.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Marital Counselling or Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
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