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Hi. Kalyani here. It's been 2 months I am married. I had an arranged marriage. I stay at Mumbai, but relocated to Ahmedabad post marriage. After getting married, my life has changed wherein I do chores that a wife does. Trying to make for a happy marriage. My husband on the other hand is just the way he was before. He does not appreciate me in anything I do. He criticises my food even though I try out everything just for him. He takes me for granted and doesn't help me in anything. Only comes to me for intimacy. This is causing me pain and depression to a next level. Need help or advise for this.
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Ur conditions needs an Psychologist or family counsellor.
Consult them and take help.It is better to consult botg husband and wife.
After marriage life has been changes for both male and female, they both need to understand it and both have to make compromise and sacrifices.
A married life needs love , understanding , trust.If these main pillers are not working then problems may arise anytime.
Talk to ur husband , family members or close relatives and friends about.Some time those exter nal help also causes miracle.
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Hello dear
The life changes after marriage but both of the individuals in the marriage have to some certain adjustments and understand and value the other significant. Try consulting a marriage counsellor for regular counselling sessions.
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Consult a marriage counsellor
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Spend time with husband , family and share your thoughts and feelings with them
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Hello Friend, Good that you are seeking a help here. As both of you are moving into the new relationships called marriage, which is highly complex, such problems are quite common to come and these are really an opportunity to understand each other better.
Don't be decisive of about yourself and your husband with such small small issues.
Seek help from close family or friends. If can't discuss with them openly about your problems, then take a professional marriage counselling help.
Be positive. You can overcome this problem easily if you really understand the men and women psychology and their needs and wants.
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Feel free to reach out to me online through Practo for further detailed evaluation and assistance. Be positive. You will be alright soon.
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It could be indicating an adjustment disorder.
I believe you should talk about your problem in detail with a mental health professional
To gain insight and better understanding of situation
There are differences and the class is due to these differences cropped up and intensified over time.
Don't worry we can talk about this and find ways to overcome and manage this situation
Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling
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All the best
More power to you
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Hi Kalyani,
I understand your difficulty. Its really very difficult to adjust to a totally different lifestyle post marriage and things become even for difficult if there isnt a supportive environment. But you need to have a little patience. It takes quite a long time to understand your new partner - his/her needs, expectations and nature. And same goes for your husband too.(Its all new for him too dont forget!).
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First of all, I would suggest you to practice relaxation.This will help you to gain better tolerance and patience. If you comfortable try talking out things to him rather than keeping them to yourself.
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Also indulge in recreations to love to do, for eg listening to music, making something creative. This is bring positivity. Consult me or any other psychologist for better handling of your adjustment problem.
Nothing to worry. All will be well at the end. Good luck!
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Yes, it is difficult to accept such unexpected changes in life.
Yet, you can bring in the changes you wanted.
Consult a psychologist cum. MARRIAGE COUNSELOR to have a better understanding and clarity about this.
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You can contact me for further details.
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Dr. Akshata Bhat
Consultation-Liaison Psychiatrist
8 yrs exp
Mumbai
Feeling low, having crying spells, sleep and appetite disturbances, and difficulty in concentration and attention are some of the signs of Depression. Consult a Psychiatrist for a detailed assessment. It is likely with medication and counselings the symptoms will improve. If you are feeling suicidal or hopeless consult a Psychiatrist immediately
Consult a Psychiatrist and get assessed for depression. The next step would be to go for couples counseling with your husband
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